Brokenhearted Woman Tells Her Gold-Digging Best Friend She Is Not Her Ex-Boyfriend's Type After She Expressed Interest In Dating Him

"I would never say what she said to any friend, but that girl is not a friend."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• August 9, 2023

Dating your best friend's ex-boyfriend is worth an eyebrow raise. Chasing after him a month after the break up is enough to question your life choices.

A 32-year-old is questioning her relationship with one of her closest friends after this happened to them. OP and her ex-boyfriend broke up a few months ago after a four-year relationship.

They wanted different things in life. OP wasn't planning on having kids, but her boyfriend wanted children.

OP thinks they stayed with each other all this time with the idea that one can change the other. OP has been miserable since their breakup.

They haven't talked or seen each other since the split because OP asked for a clean break to help her move on faster. The idea of her ex-boyfriend moving on caused additional pain.

OP knows he will have no difficulties looking for a new girlfriend. He has all the attributes women look for in their significant other.

OP didn't expect one of those women chasing her ex-boyfriend to come from her friend group. OP ignored her friend's "joke" when she said her ex was up for grabs a month after the breakup.

She couldn't ignore it any longer when her best friend brought it up during their most recent dinner. Her best friend announced to the group that she planned to date OP's ex-boyfriend.

She was admonished because friends don't do that to each other. OP told her best friend she could try, but she is not her ex's type.

OP told her best friend his ex doesn't date "greedy girls with lip injections and fake breasts."

Her best friend cried and all their friends comforted her

Her best friend said she won't feel sorry for taking OP's ex now after what she said

OP went to her car and cried. She doesn't know if she went to far with her snide comment and asked Redditors to weigh in.

OP thinks that their friendship might be over after that hurtful exchange

Good riddance, said Redditors. A person like that isn't worth a friendship. It seems she has been waiting on the sidelines for the perfect opportunity to dig her claws into OP's ex-boyfriend.

OP realized she didn't want to be friends with her anyway. Commenters urged her not to apologize.

It could also be good for OP to inform her ex-boyfriend about her former best friend's intentions.

OP can't take back what she said and it's ultimately up to her if she wants to apologize to a person who has shown no regard for her feelings.

Laughing at your best friend's pain isn't how friends treat each other. OP will feel lighter without that negativity around her.

What OP said isn't worse that what her former best friend has been saying. OP's harshness doesn't erase the other's ill intentions.

It's the season of breakup for OP. This one, she might feel grateful for.

What OP said was hurtful. At best, she is a justified a**hole.

OP posted an update after the flood of comments died down. Her former best friend and her ex-boyfriend went out on a date. He hasn't responded to her calls and texts after the date. OP has no idea why.

Her former best friend is blaming her for what happened. OP is done participating in her drama. The friends who will stick by her are the ones she plans on keeping, the rest can join her former best friend.

OP's best friend was never really a friend to her. She has been waiting all this time for OP's relationship to fall apart so she can snatch her ex-boyfriend.

That is not how friends behave towards each other. Now that the drama has died down, OP can focus on herself and concentrate on building better relationships moving forward.

Chelsi