Boyfriend Unamused When His Girlfriend Cites The Death Of A Celebrity As Her Latest Excuse For Her Unemployment

She quit her job without consulting him and has used every social issue as an excuse not to look for a job

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• November 19, 2023

A 28-year-old is at his wit's end after financially supporting his 26-year-old girlfriend since the start of the pandemic. The two and a half years they have been together were great, but things changed when the pandemic hit.

OP has a niche job in health care. He loves his job, but it requires him to work long hours, affecting his social life.

His girlfriend, Julie, didn't complain about his lack of work-life balance. She cared for their apartment and gave OP space when he needed rest.

OP's long work hours got even longer when the pandemic started — he regularly clocked in 40-50 hours of overtime. His pay increased because of the amount of overtime he put in.

OP paid off his debts and car payments, saved for a mortgage, and paid for their rent in advance. His girlfriend unexpectedly quit her job that March.

She stayed home all day, every day. She wasted hours online shopping, binge-watching TV shows, and ordering expensive food.

She told OP she was living her best life and that she wasn't interested in going back to work. She used every excuse in the book to justify her unemployment.

She told OP that she was too affected by the Black Lives Matter protest to look for a job. She said she wanted to participate but did nothing more than watch TV and argue with others online.

Then, the second surge of COVID-19 cases scared her from job hunting. Her most recent excuse broke OP.

She got upset when Chadwick Boseman's death was announced. She was upset over the death of a celebrity she never met, whose movies she never watched.

Any attempt at a conversation about her future prospects triggers an emotional reaction. OP couldn't help but compare how much he works while his girlfriend shopped for night vision binoculars for a hike she planned for them to go.

He had to clean their stinky apartment because his girlfriend got upset over a cartoon of the late actor. OP wants to end their relationship but fears his girlfriend will end up homeless and destitute.

She won't be motivated to look for a job if she has OP's money to fall back on

OP just seems exhausted by their situation

Others speculated if his girlfriend's "laziness" was brought on by depression

OP will soon get dragged down into the pit if he doesn't protect his own mental health.

OP can't waste his life rescuing someone over and over again at the cost of his own future.

If OP is up for it, he can give his girlfriend another chance to get her life together.

If his patience already ran dry, the first thing he should do is to come clean to her friends and family about their breakup

That way he wouldn't be so worried about where she might end up after their relationship.

OP didn't post any updates about their relationship. It's unclear if he took the advice of the helpful Redditors who attempted to give him a different perspective on his relationship.

The commenters who suggested that his girlfriend's lethargy is likely the symptom of depression were right on the nose. However, OP isn't qualified to treat his girlfriend's condition, especially if she isn't willing to admit that there is a problem in the first place.

Chelsi