Clueless Guy Ruins His Relationship By Not Wanting To Go To Restaurants With His GF Because She Cooks Better

They have been going to restaurants infrequently because he thinks his girlfriend is basically his private chef

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• June 9, 2023

This Reddit post is a three-act tragedy. It all started when OP asked Reddit if he was the a**hole for his unwillingness to dine out because of his girlfriend's excellent cooking.

OP praised how great of a home cook his girlfriend was. He said she could recreate any dish she tried at par or even better than the restaurant's version.

She even recreated a long-lost sausage recipe of his grandma's. She was that skilled, OP said.

The excellent food at home always waiting for him deterred OP from going out to eat. The only time it makes sense to dine at restaurants, he said, was during his girlfriend's birthday.

Additionally, her skills in the kitchen meant OP saved more money. They only go to Japanese restaurants when they do go out.

That's only because his girlfriend hasn't yet perfected the recipe for ramen noodles and sushi. She has been practicing, so OP thinks it's only a matter of time before he can eat ramen at home courtesy of his talented girlfriend.

During their recent anniversary, OP bought sushi-grade fish, nori, and rolling mats. He told his girlfriend he wanted homemade sushi before they went out for their anniversary dinner.

His girlfriend got upset. She said she was not going to learn how to make sushi because she would never be on a real date again if she did.

OP was taken aback by her reaction

He was confused because she has no problem going to Olive Garden for the red sauce or some other restaurants for a specific dish

He said he noticed her becoming more gloomy because he has been making her cook during their date nights instead of dining out

She also mentioned before that the food she makes tastes great to him, but she can't appreciate it as much because her senses are dulled after hours of cooking

OP thinks of his girlfriend as his private chef

He backtracked quickly after the first scathing comments and clarified that he actually washes the dishes

OP only values her for what she can do for him

When she got upset over being asked to cook on their anniversary, did OP tell her why he preferred eating at home? It looks like his appreciation for her remains in his thoughts.

Another way to take the burden of cooking from her is to get involved with the process other than just buying the ingredients and washing the utensils she uses

It's better for their relationship if OP participates instead of sitting on his ass while she works

No wonder she's fed up if she's cooking every single meal on top of dealing with every other chore

Was OP too busy to notice how tired his girlfriend has been cooking every single day for him and their family?

Going to Olive Garden isn't her idea of a night out. She probably just wants a break from cooking at home, so anywhere else is better.

OP took the joy of food and cooking from a foodie. It's terrible.

It's possible that OP knows how exhausted his girlfriend has been, he just doesn't care enough to do anything about it

Cooking turned into a punishment for her. It's just another chore for her to accomplish.

Doing what you love every single day for hours on end can get old fast no matter how much you enjoy it in the beginning

OP, are you deliberately obtuse?

The second act of the tragedy happened when OP proposed to his girlfriend after realizing how much of an ass he has been

She rejected him and said that she didn't want to commit to a one-sided relationship

OP shared an update a few months after his original post

Things were awkward between them after the proposal and she stopped making anything else other than casserole for a while. She also saw his original post after it went viral and snapped at him for thinking she loved Olive Garden.

She only agrees to go to Olive Garden for the sake of their kids. It's obvious that OP still doesn't get his wife's point. They separated after that argument.

It might be a little too late to "fix" things OP

Why the hell did he propose in the first place when it was so obvious his girlfriend was unhappy with the way things were?

She had to spell out every single one of her needs to him before he realized he had to do something

He said nothing during the weeks where she cooked nothing but casserole? Where is the self-awareness, OP?

I truly do not know how OP had the audacity to even wonder if he was the a**hole in the first place. He had so many opportunities to do right by his girlfriend and chose the wrong move at every turn.

Learning that they have kids and that she has a successful business on top of cooking for all of them day in and day out was astounding. She deserves better than OP and it looks like he is a long way from realizing that.

Chelsi