Woman Gets Upset To Find Out Daughter's Boyfriend Chose Another Realtor Instead Of Her, Bans Him From Her House

"I feel guilty, but I think I made the right choice."

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• December 27, 2023

It's not always true that family and friends make better business partners when it comes to transactions. With the best of intentions and aspirations, a seemingly "safe," mutually beneficial activity or contact can quickly spiral out of control and become anything from a small embarrassment to a catastrophic nightmare.

Many of the cautions against "mixing business and pleasure" with coworkers also apply to family members. Difficult individuals and situations at work could come and go, but difficult problems in your home and business can have a long-term detrimental effect on your relationships and income.

Naturally, it would be wonderful if conducting business with the people who are closest to us was rewarding and risk-free. It certainly doesn't always work out well always, but it does occasionally.

Like many things in business, it helps to attempt to picture the worst-case scenario and weigh the advantages, disadvantages, and alternatives. Determine whether the risk is worthwhile and whether you can tolerate the potential outcomes. 

The OP of today's story has been looking into buying a home. The OP reached out to a family friend who is an experienced and well-achieved realtor whom he trusts.

Working with him has been easy, and he got a great deal. The OP has a GF of seven years whose mom happens to be new in the real estate business.

When she found out what the OP did, she was really upset, but the OP didn't want to mix business with family. Keep scrolling to know how the entire story unfolded.

And here's the headline

OP felt comfortable working with him, and now they are set to close in two weeks

They haven’t spoken in over a week and the OP's no longer allowed at his gf’s house

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

1. I didn’t use my girlfriend of 7 year’s mom (FMIL) as my realtor 2. New realtors need support for friends and family and it could be seen as a betrayal

We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to read through below

It is the OP's choice to pick a realtor

It won't ruin the relationship with the GF moving forward

Most real estate sale people are like used car sales people

They'll connect you to good loan brokers

What happens if the mom doesn't get over it soon

OP shouldn't feel guilty and he shouldn't mend anything

What a super professional language she used

Lots of information is needed when you are looking at houses

Privacy is one of the many reasons one should avoid using a family member as their realtor. A competent realtor will be aware of your financial circumstances and what you are eligible for, and the fact that OP's FMIL lacks experience is another reason not to select her.

A realtor who has a solid reputation as a highly competent individual stands a greater chance of having their client's offer approved. The OP was declared, not the AH.

Maryjane