20 Y.O. Woman Is Tired Of Dealing With Her Boyfriend's Immature Attitude, Online Community Members Think She Has Outgrown Him

Most people suggest breaking up with the guy.

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• Published in Interesting
• November 29, 2023

Among the elements of an ideal relationship is growing together. But as time passes, some people will notice that they aren't on the same wavelength as their partner anymore.

According to dating coach Laurel House, each relationship has a purpose. Some will serve their purpose 'for now' while others will be kept 'for some time.'

Once people feel that they've outgrown the relationship, consider it expired. When that time comes, it's completely okay to break up with your partner.

Over at the Relationships subreddit, a 20-year-old woman tells the community that she's grappling with a growing disconnect from her 20-year-old boyfriend. Feeling exhausted and realizing she's become a pseudo-parent due to his lack of social cues, she finds herself increasingly embarrassed by his inappropriate behavior, like sharing intimate details in public.

She also tells the guy that the way he teases their mutual friend makes her uncomfortable. At this point, the smallest things tick her off — including the time when he complained about the dirty floors to the janitor the entire day.

Despite loving him, she contemplates breaking up as she's torn between her feelings and the constant embarrassment. In an update, a fight over her solo trip to the store highlights their differences, with him insisting she should've asked him to accompany her and the OP wanting time to herself.

Despite loving her boyfriend, the OP thinks he's cringy 11 months into the relationship.

The boyfriend engages in behaviors that cause the OP to feel embarrassed.

For example, he talks about his privates with some mutual female friends.

He goes so far as to tease a female friend, uttering vile remarks that leave the OP feeling embarrassed.

An update to her post further proves her point. She has really outgrown him.

Redditors started sharing their experiences with outgrowing the relationship and tells the OP it's okay to break up with the guy.

It's time for the OP to move on from this relationship.

The OP's too young to be enduring this situation. She needs to call it quits with the guy.

Redditors really see no other next step other than to break up with the guy. He has given her plenty of reasons not to continue with this relationship.

She shouldn't focus her energy on an immature guy anymore.

There are better men out there — men who won't make her feel the cringe. But she can't find the person while she's with this guy.

If she decides to break up, she doesn't need to state a reason. She only needs to do it.

Sure, the OP still loves her boyfriend, but with the way she feels toward her recently, people can only predict that this relationship is going downhill. It has already crossed her mind to break up with the guy.

His behavior, like teasing and inappropriate remarks, coupled with her embarrassment, shows they're growing apart. Sooner or later, she'll be pushed to make a decision.

She needs to call it quits before even more discomfort, fights, and heartache unfold.

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