The OP asks:
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He explained they had a gender reveal party for their upcoming baby:
It was a modest celebration:
They found they were expecting a boy, while the OP was hoping for a girl:
Yet, he managed to hide his feelings and celebrate with their guests:
But when everyone left, his emotions got the better of him:
The OP said he was really panicking:
He revealed his fears:
He explained he had them for a long time:
The OP tried to explain to his wife when she found him:
But it didn't go well:
So, the OP is asking for advice:
A Reddit user gave him genuine advice
They also advised him to talk with his wife and tell her everything
The OP should explain his fears to his wife
The OP responded:
One Reddit user told him he has the power to choose what kind of parent he will be
One therapist said that crying is a healthy way to deal with emotions
"Start learning now and get ready for the chaotic wonderful years to come."
The gender of the child does not determine the type of father
"I really hope you go to therapy or even just a support group."
Redittors told the OP that by the fact he recognizes his father's mistakes, he is already halfway to being a better father to his child. The gender of a child doesn't determine what kind of a father the OP will be, but he does himself.
They advised him to talk with his wife and explain everything.