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"I didn't tell my wife this but I was really hoping for a daughter instead of a son"
Gender reveal parties are a joyful and exciting occasion. They offer a unique opportunity for parents, family, and friends to gather and celebrate the impending arrival of a new member in their lives.
The moment of revelation brings a burst of joy and evokes cheers and emotional responses from everyone involved, especially the parents-to-be. But, a Reddit user recently shared that their party of gender revelation brought him opposite emotions, and he shared his concern online.
The OP, a 30-year-old male, described an incident about the gender reveal party for his and his 31-year-old wife's first child. The couple had agreed on a modest celebration, preferring a simple event where a friend would announce the baby's gender.
However, unknown to his wife, he wanted a daughter. This preference was deeply rooted in his troubled past with his own father.
He feared that if he had a son, he might inadvertently repeat the damaging parenting style of his father, an issue that had caused him significant distress. The gender reveal disclosed that they were expecting a boy, which deeply upset him.
Despite being upset, the OP tried to maintain calm and celebrate with his wife and family, hiding his true feelings. But the emotional burden was too overwhelming for him.
So later, when everyone left, the OP burst into tears. Usually, he believes crying is unproductive and unnecessary, but the fear of repeating his father's mistakes with his own son led him to a moment of vulnerability.
His wife found him in that state, so he tried to explain his feelings without revealing much of his past and the issues with his father. But the partial explanation led her to perceive his reaction as selfish, resulting in a heated exchange where she called him names and asked him to sleep on the couch.
Since this incident, their relationship has been noticeably tense. The OP's wife is still upset.
So, the OP questions whether his reaction to the gender reveal and the subsequent emotional display was in the wrong.
Redittors told the OP that by the fact he recognizes his father's mistakes, he is already halfway to being a better father to his child. The gender of a child doesn't determine what kind of a father the OP will be, but he does himself.
They advised him to talk with his wife and explain everything.