Expectant Mom Defends Her Right To Plan Gender Reveal Party Against Overzealous Grandma-In-Waiting

“I already planned my gender reveal to the tee, and I intend to stick to it.”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• January 8, 2024

Our narrator (Original Poster) and her boyfriend were hit with the most exhilarating news—they were having a baby!

As the pink lines on the pregnancy test danced in celebration, the couple decided to keep the joyful secret tightly wrapped until the close of the first trimester.

They agreed OP’s parents would be the first to know, and a grand reveal was set for Mother’s Day week. Keeping the entire fiasco under wraps was no easy feat; OP’s boyfriend even slipped up to a couple of his family.

The reveal played out beautifully though OP’s mother was upset she wasn’t the first to know. With the announcement out of the way, the couple began gearing up for the gender reveal of a lifetime.

Knowing this meticulous couple, a to-do list was already in the works. The anatomy was already scheduled; all that was left was putting together a registry and keeping their lips zipped till the date of a reveal—a month later.

This also gave ample time for OP’s brother in the military to grace the occasion. When OP casually disclosed the date of her anatomy scan, her mother went into “planner” mode. 

To OP’s dismay, she realized her mom expected to be told the gender the minute the scan was concluded. As the esteemed soon-to-grandmother, she also took it upon herself to plan the reveal.

OP explained that was, in fact, not the plan, but her mother wasn’t having it. She insisted on at least being a “holder of the gender” or pushing the date forward.

OP already planned out everything the way she wanted, and this was some unnecessary stress. How does she navigate this situation?

Let’s dig into

A bit of background

The couple were gearing up to host a gender reveal party for the family after their anatomy scan

OP’s mom approached her, insisting that she wanted to plan the gender reveal party

Apparently, both OP and her mom have different ideas for the party. And neither is willing to budge

Here’s how the Reddit community reacted to the story:

“NTA. Your mom has big plans - considering she's not the one having the baby.”

“Tell her if she doesn't stop pressuring you about this you might just cancel the party altogether and she won't find out until the baby is born!“

”There was once a time before gender reveal parties and that there are a few billion people around today whose parents didn't know their gender prior to birth.“

“NTA, your mother is upset that the plans she has in her head are getting ruined.“

“This will probably get downvoted by Americans but gender reveal parties are horrendously cheesy, awful and embarrassing.“

“To me it sounds like your mother is jealous that she's not the centre of the universe when it comes to your child.”

In the eyes of supportive Redditors, the consensus is clear: OP's plans take precedence over her mom's grand designs. 

Redditors recommend OP sit her mom down for a sincere heart-to-heart to help her understand what’s going on. 

Talking helps, you know? That way, everyone understands each other better and can figure things out together.

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Jesse