Unemployment Forces Woman To Ask Minimum Wage Boyfriend For Gas Money, Asks For Advice After Sparking Relationship Rift

"I told him that I am not a free Uber service and I feel taken advantage of at times."

Sophia

• Published in Interesting
• April 7, 2024

When one person in a relationship earns more than the other, it often calls for a delicate balance of financial adjustments and understanding. Money matters, after all, are rarely just about dollars and cents; they're about support, fairness, and sometimes, compromise.

Especially when earnings aren't equal, both partners must be willing to bend a little to find a middle ground that feels right for both. This might mean discussing budgets more openly, adjusting lifestyle choices, or even sharing costs in a way that respects both partners' financial situations.

The key is willingness—a willingness to understand, to adapt, and to support each other through thick and thin. This very issue is at the heart of a Reddit story, where a woman, after losing her job, suggests that her boyfriend, who earns a minimum wage from his part-time job, help pay for gas since she drives him to work every day.

Initially, she hadn't minded bearing the cost alone, but her new financial reality forces her to reassess. Her boyfriend's reaction—upset and avoidant—highlights the challenges couples face when money becomes tight.

Their story is a real-world example of how important it is for both people in a relationship to be open to compromise, especially when the unexpected happens, and financial roles shift. Without that flexibility and willingness to adjust, even the strongest bond can be tested.

Just take a look at this...

OP drives her boyfriend to his Amazon job due to his overnight shifts. She also takes him to appointments and the gym as he lacks a car and license due to unpaid tickets.

OP lost a $55/hour marketing job 3 weeks ago. She still covered bills and never asked her boyfriend for gas money for rides.

Despite a $60 weekly gas cost, she doesn't ask her boyfriend, who earns $16/hour, for money due to her master's degree privilege.

Given that OP's now unemployed, budgeting leads to changes: no personal training, natural nails, and avoiding overconsumption.

OP then asked boyfriend to split gas costs every two weeks; he got upset, saying she takes her easier life for granted.

Basically: boyfriend can't afford $120/month for gas; she covers bills for 4 years. Feels taken advantage of; he avoids discussion.

Here's a TLDR...

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Sounds like he's not even on the guest list for the winner's circle.

He's also dodging responsibilities faster than he drives without a license.

Seems like his idea of "partnership" is about as substantial as his part-time work hours.

He games while she foots the bills. Time for him to level up in chores.

If his paycheck were a mystery novel, it'd be titled "Where Did It Go?".

Sounds like he's not just looking for a ride to work, but a lifelong chauffeur.

Seems like his job search is slower than dial-up internet in the '90s.

Looks like he's stuck in a time loop, but she's ready to hit fast forward. Time to upgrade from freeloader to go-getter.

"How does he contribute to your life & relationship other than mooching rides everywhere from you?"

Time for him to catch the bus or foot the bill. She's not running a taxi service.

Seems like he's on the slow lane to responsibility.

"I think maybe it's time to part ways with him so he can grow up."

Dump the freeloader and upgrade to a self-sufficient partner.

Seems like she's not in a relationship, but running a teenage foster home.

So, when love meets the ledger, it seems romance needs not just a heart but a calculator, too. This tale of gas money and love reminds us that the fuel for a relationship isn't just affection—it's also about navigating the bumpy financial roads together, preferably with a shared budget spreadsheet.

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Sophia