Man With Brain Tumor Doesn't Want Certain People Attending His Funeral If He Dies During Surgery, Tables It For Redditors To Judge

"I’ve come to terms with what needs to happen"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• January 13, 2024

You certainly don't think of organizing your own funeral and memorial ceremony as an enjoyable way to spend a weekend. The majority of people don't do it; perhaps you've never even considered it before.

Typically, these morbid activities are performed by the deceased's closest living relatives. When an individual in their youth passes away suddenly and without warning, the conventional approach makes sense.

Having to make decisions about what to do with your body, how to commemorate your life, and how to pay for it during some of the most trying times of their lives is, nevertheless, one of the only things worse for your survivors than losing you. Above all, your loved ones will eventually feel reassured knowing that they are honoring your preferences rather than speculating about what you might have intended.

In what way do you want your loved ones to gather to grieve for you? Who should be present, in your opinion?

The OP discovered that a tumor the size of a golf ball had been growing inside the front of his brain, pushing against his skull. He was put on the waiting list for surgery and there’s a 50-60% chance he won’t make it through.

OP's former friends and people he hardly knows have been wishing him well but he doesn't want any of them at his funeral if he doesn't make it. So he brought it to the Reddit community to help him decide if he is right about his plans.

OP kicks off his story

OP's sister thinks he should allow everyone who might want to pay respects to attend

Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say regarding the story

Obsessing over this could be a waste of time

It's one party the guest of honor doesn't enjoy

The OP shouldn't make it harder

Both your friends and family will want to remember you. Just because you don't like the people sympathizing with you doesn't mean you should take away their chance to honor their memories of you.

Sure, people are gullible and it annoys them when things seem forced or artificial, but OP's loved ones will want to cling to what little of him they still have if he dies during the procedure. Keep scrolling to check out more comments.

The OP shouldn't take that away

The OP shouldn't bother about it

This Redditor wishes the OP well

Best of luck with the surgery

The OP shouldn't push this point

Arranging a funeral is similar to organizing a wedding, with the exception that most of the time it's done at the last minute, and the atmosphere is obviously sad. Many Redditors said that if this happens, the OP will be dead and won’t know or care who is at his funeral.

OP was told to save his energy for something better than this as it was declared that there were no AHs in the story.

Maryjane