Disappointed Son Tells Father He Owes Him Nothing Because He Keeps Choosing Step-Kids Over Him

A poor father who neglected his bio son for years over his step-kids has the nerve to ask him for a favor.

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• August 5, 2024

When parents decide to marry again and merge their families, their biggest desire is for their children to get along. Unfortunately, kids might have a different perspective on expanding their families, especially if they feel neglected.

A 17-year-old boy shared that he no longer has a good relationship with his dad since he married again. They used to be close, but things changed when his dad moved in with his new wife and her kids.

Once they all started living together, his dad's attention shifted entirely to his stepfamily. The OP tried to talk to him about it, but his concerns were brushed aside until they had a serious conversation last year.

During this talk, his dad explained that he focused more on his stepchildren because he felt an immediate bond with them and believed they were meant to be his kids. He contrasted this with his experience of becoming a dad to the OP, saying it was initially difficult and didn't come naturally.

This revelation hurt the OP and led him to distance himself from his step-siblings. But, in an attempt to fix things, they planned a day for just the two of them.

However, this was repeatedly postponed due to emergencies involving his stepfamily. Frustrated, the OP told his dad he was done trying and would remain distant until he could move out and become independent.

The latest issue arose when his dad asked him to request a spare ticket from his best friend's parents so his stepsister could attend an event. The father said it'd be a favor to him.

But the OP refused, saying he didn't owe him any favors after everything that had happened. Then, the father accused him of making things difficult.

Now, the OP wonders if he is in the wrong for refusing his dad's request.

The OP explained his father started neglecting him after marrying and instead prioritized his stepkids

They talked and his father explained to OP the painful truth

Still, they agreed to try to make their relationship better

But his father always had something else that was more important than spending time with OP

After so many postpones, the OP told him that he was done trying

Even when the father wanted to do something just for the OP, stepkids interfered, and he prioritized them again

Recently, the father asked OP to help him get a ticket for his stepdaughter so she could attend an event

But the OP refused, and he accused him of making things difficult

A Redditor sided with the OP

The OP added

The OP deserves better treatment

The OP explained

A redditor asked OP if he has any relatives to help him, but he said no

A Redditor asked if the ticket was OP's

The OP replied

A Redditor said the OP shouldn't block his father, but match his energy

The OP's father is a poor dad and a poor human being

Redditors told the OP not to bother himself with his father's behavior. He is not in the wrong in this situation, as his father clearly prioritizes his stepkids over him.

However, he shouldn't block his father. The OP should provide him with the same treatment he receives.

Hopefully, the father will learn from his mistakes.

Filip