Mom-To-Be Announces Her News By Simply Texting "I'm Pregnant," Gets Upset That Her Friend Of 12 Years Asked How She Felt About Her Pregnancy

The pregnant friend famously doesn't like kids and a vague message didn't make her feelings about babies any clearer

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• July 8, 2023

A lot of relationships got strained over misunderstood chats and messages. A 12-year friendship fell prey to this phenomenon after one announced her pregnancy over a text.

The OP and her friend Molly have had open discussions about remaining child-free. OP is well aware that people change their views over time, but Molly has been consistent with her opinion of kids.

Their most recent chat about children happened a few months ago when OP shared her sister's second pregnancy. Molly was repulsed and said, "Ew, why would she want one to begin with?"

A few weeks ago, OP received a text from Molly. "I'm pregnant," was all she said... not even an emoji was added.

OP didn't know if this was a panicked message. She replied and asked Molly how she felt about her pregnancy.

"Happy, obviously!!!" She added that they were only telling their closest friends and family.

OP was shocked by her friend's change of heart but congratulated her nonetheless. OP invited Molly to lunch to properly celebrate this milestone.

They met up for lunch and Molly brought her friend Emma. OP noticed Emma and Molly exchanging glances throughout the meal which she shrugged off.

They were also showing each other something on their phones without including OP. She ignored it but noted how catty and cliquey it all seemed.

OP and Emma were left alone at the table when Molly went to the powder room

OP made small talk and told Emma how exciting Molly's pregnancy was and how delighted their friend looked

Emma said, "Obviously she is, not that you would know." OP asked what she meant.

Emma confronted OP about questioning Molly's feelings about her pregnancy. She said Molly was mad at OP because of it.

OP confronted Molly when she got back. Molly said she wouldn't have informed OP if she wasn't happy about the pregnancy.

OP brought up their conversation just months ago. Molly replied that she felt that way about other people's babies but not her own.

OP left after that but she can't quite convince herself that asking Molly a question about her feelings regarding her pregnancy was so offensive

Saying "ew" after someone announces a pregnancy is more rude than asking how a person feels about being pregnant

If OP replied with this, all hell would break lose! Molly would have brought more than just Emma at that lunch date with OP.

OP's question was completely reasonable given what she knows about Molly and how the latter announced her pregnancy

Being mad at OP for asking such a benign question is an overreaction

It actually makes you question if she is truly happy about her pregnancy or she's still scared to admit how she feels

OP was very supportive, she was a very good friend. The same couldn't be said about Molly.

OP should consider Molly an acquaintance from now on

They were judging OP while sitting in front of her. How immature are they? OP was right, Molly could have talked to her if she was hurt by what OP said. She chose to backstab her like they were in high school.

OP asked a question with no judgment given Molly's vague message and she got a catty lunch out of it

OP should console herself by knowing she did what any good friend would do

A friend of more than a decade wouldn't backstab you like this if you hurt their feelings. I can only imagine how Molly and Emma talked about OP before & after that lunch.

OP should steer clear away from Molly. Good friends do not treat friends this way, and OP will be less stressed without this unnecessary drama in her life.

Chelsi