Man Shares Story Of How He Messed Up By Going On A Date With A Friend Who Had Feelings For Him

"She has loved me for years and the date was like a dream come true for her"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• June 8, 2023

For the majority of people looking for a romantic connection, reciprocated love is ideal. But that isn't always how things work out.

When you yearn for someone who doesn't reciprocate your feelings, you can refer to such love as being unrequited or unreciprocated. Perhaps you are attracted to someone sexually, have romantic feelings for them, or have a strong desire to be close to them, but they don't feel the same way about you. 

Believe me when I say that you are not alone if this is your situation. The emotional pain that may result from unrequited love is common and manageable.

The OP found himself in such a situation, except that, in this case, he was the one who didn't have any feelings for this person. This person is his friend Sarah, and they both attend the same university.

The OP has always known that Sarah has a thing for him, but he has always been reluctant to go on a date with her. This is because he genuinely values their friendship and feels that putting romance there would just mess things up.

One thing led to another, and they ended up going on an actual date, but things didn't end well after that. Sarah actually opened up about her feelings, but the OP had to turn her down.

Read the entire story for yourself below.

The headline

It led to a conversation where the OP essentially asked Sarah for a proper date

She wasn't actually hungry because she ate lunch right before she left her place

She told the OP that she has loved him for years and the date was like a dream come true for her

The Reddit thread went viral with over a thousand comments and here are some of the most upvoted ones below

Kindest thing the OP can do is to let her know her actions was bad

Why not place a separate take out order?

She did this to a person she has loved for years

OP's friend seems extremely entitled and inconsiderate

Definitely would be good to share as she seems clueless

This Redditor believes the OP dodged a bullet

The OP's friend is missing a few screws

It seems like the OP's friendship isn't valued

This Redditor expects a story from the OP's friend soon

Getting a meal for the dad

OP's flirting was genuine and so was the asking out

There will be better experiences in the future

The OP's friend doesn't deserve him

The biggest thing that is making the OP second guess the whole situation

The OP had this update to share with the community

The OP didn't mention the food incident when they spoke

To summarize the whole story...

For the person in love, unrequited love can be extremely painful, in part because it frequently means they won't get to live their life with this person as fully or deeply as they desire. Lack of reciprocity can sometimes make people feel rejected or condemned for who they are, and this is what Sarah felt.

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Maryjane