Confused Woman Seeks Help Online As Her Married Friend Has A Crush On Her Husband And He's Enjoying The Extra Attention

"He makes no effort stating he feels a better connection to women"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• December 16, 2023

A crush can be a prison of inner suffering for some people, but for others, it can be an exciting and fun diversion that is part of life's flavor. If you're a lover of movies, then you already know the signs when someone is crushing on another person.

Your palms start to perspire as soon as you see your crush. Your knees start to sway as you attempt to keep yourself balanced.

Your gut clenches into a knot, and you can't find the right words to say to this individual, and it makes your throat dry. Your heartbeat is palpating so quickly and intensely that you think everyone is hearing it.

But seeing them only once brightens your whole day, and your crush seems to be your entire world at that moment. Then, you snap of it and you come to the real world where we see the OP's friend revealing that she has a crush on her husband.

Dating, right? Well, the OP didn't want to be a jerk about it, so she didn't react at all. Mind you, this friend is also married with several kids.

The OP doesn't hang out very often with this friend anymore, but their kids are doing the same things together. The OP has noticed that whenever her husband and this “friend” are around each other, she goes right to him like a magnet.

OP has told his husband about this, but he doesn't seem to mind at all. Still, the whole situation is eating the OP up, so she sought advice on Reddit.

The headline

The OP finds out her friend has a crush on her husband

What should the OP do now?

And the comments roll in...

They both need to get counseling

The OP should confront her

The OP corrected a few things in the comments

we were on a hike and she somewhat brought up the idea that it would be fun to go on a (short) family trip to a popular destination near us, splitting the airbnb cost. I didn't realize her version didn't include her husband or most of her family until we were well on our way. Even if i had known I wouldn't assume that was going to lead to craziness.

She said she had a crush after i was done talking about his great parts (good dad, helps around house). So while I agree it was rude and I should have taken it more seriously, I wasn't sure if it was more of a casual comment or distasteful joke. Rather than a declaration of attempting to take over.

He needs to cut her off

He's encouraging her behavior

This is not a BFF situation

He likes the attention

This Redditor is suggesting therapy

Some Redditors say that OP's restrictions should take precedence over the friendship with the random woman. OP has set acceptable boundaries, which are actually fairly lenient towards the woman, and hopefully the husband acknowledges this.

What advice would you give the OP? Share them with us by leaving a comment below and don't forget to share this post with your loved ones as well.

Maryjane