Bride-To-Be Seeks Affordable And Handmade Christmas Gift For Future MIL, But She Prefers Expensive Jewelry

Her fiancé is considering to use their savings to buy the expensive jewelry.

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• Published in Interesting
• November 25, 2023

The holiday season is just around the corner. And it's around this time of the year when people start planning which presents to buy for their loved ones.

As receivers of these presents, we have to understand that people have different gifting styles. Some people may be thinking of practical gifts, while others love to give out food.

We should always appreciate the thought. After all, the essence of the holiday season lies not just in the material gifts exchanged but in the warmth and joy shared with those we hold dear.

As we pick out gifts, let's appreciate that everyone has their own way of giving. Remember that each gift shows how someone cares in their own special way.

Today's story from the Am I The A**hole (AITA) subreddit is about a bride-to-be who's dealing with her entitled future mother-in-law. She tells the community that she wants to save for a house and for her wedding.

So, for Christmas, she decided on Christmas hampers featuring handmade goodies. Someone doesn't appreciate this effort, though.

It's none other than her future MIL. She tells the community that this woman only buys her son cheap Christmas gifts.

But she expects her son to buy her expensive things, such as jewelry. The moment the FMIL found out what her present was, she got furious.

Now, her fiancé wants to dip into their savings and give in to the FMIL's demands.

The original poster (OP) decided she'd give out Christmas hampers to people. But her FMIL isn't too happy about the gift.

She wants to save money for her wedding and for a house. That's why she and her fiancé chose to give out Christmas hampers.

Unfortunately, her FMIL is a demanding one. She wants expensive jewelry.

The fiancé thinks the OP is the a-hole for not agreeing to buy jewelry for the FMIL.

The giving of the jewelry needs to stop.

At this point, the FMIL will always expect them to gift something expensive every year. And that's not practical.

The fiancé wanting to give in to the demands of his mother is a huge red flag for the OP.

He's technically tapping into the finances that they both own. Imagine if he and the OP got married, and his mother continues to make these demands.

The OP could be marrying into a family that disrespects boundaries.

Even if they're homemade goodies, they can still be considered Christmas presents.

OP needs to stand firm on her decision; perhaps it will teach her FMIL to grow up.

Setting a price limit for the presents is an excellent and healthy boundary that can be implemented among family members.

The OP is a chef, so this Christmas hamper will surely be good.

Time for the fiancé to recognize his mother's entitled behavior.

If the fiancé really wanted to buy his mom an expensive gift, he shouldn't be using their savings. He also needs to respect the boundaries set by his significant other.

He shouldn't enable his mom's spoiled attitude. As for the OP, it's great that she stood her ground against the gift.

But if her fiancé keeps telling her she's the a-hole for not allowing him to use their savings for her FMIL's gift, she might need to reconsider this relationship.

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