Mom Furious As Future MIL Decides To Exclude Her Kids From Family Vacation By Saying It's For 'Adults Only'

She realized she was lied to when her FSIL arrived with her three children.

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• Published in Interesting
• October 11, 2023

How can a single mom determine if the person she's about to marry is the right fit for her and her children? Proving this can be challenging, especially when she doesn't see any red flags with the man.

However, there are instances where circumstances can shed light on whether he is truly the right partner. One example that illustrates this is a story from the 'Am I The A**hole?' (AITA) subreddit.

A mom with two little girls, who tragically lost her husband to cancer, is facing a tough situation with her fiancé's mom. Her future mother-in-law doesn't exactly have the warmest feelings toward single moms, especially since she's earning a lot less than her SO.

The FMIL has even gone so far as to leave the girls out of family gatherings, which has caused some friction. One day, the original poster (OP) was invited to a 3-day family trip, but guess what?

It was "adults only." The mom, hesitantly, left her kids with a babysitter to join the trip, only to arrive and find her sister-in-law with her three kids in tow.

Yep, you guessed it, the mother-in-law had fibbed about the trip being for grown-ups only to keep the girls away. Understandably, it made the mom pretty mad.

She let her fiancé and his mom have an earful and decided to bail on the trip, canceling her ticket. The man is blaming her for stirring up family drama.

In the end, mom feels utterly betrayed and heartbroken because her little girls were excluded once again.

The OP reveals her family situation and that she's in a relationship.

Her FMIL isn't too fond of her.

And although the OP's relationship with the FMIL is improving, the FMIL tends to exclude the OP's kids from gatherings.

The OP was invited to an adults-only family trip by the FMIL.

When she and her fiancé met up with the rest of the family, the OP discovered she was lied to.

It wasn't an adults-only trip.

The SIL's husband told her that the FMIL must have lied so she could exclude the OP's kids.

She didn't join the trip. It ended up in a fight with her fiancé.

The fiancé finally reveals his true colors. This isn't looking good for the OP.

She might want to reconsider marrying this guy.

He's defending his mom even if it's clear that the FMIL is in the wrong.

The FMIL should've been honest.

This guy's blaming the wrong person.

This'll be a problem in the long run.

It wasn't about causing family drama; it was simply refusing to yield to the FMIL's manipulation.

The guy needs to understand that while he doesn't have the responsibility as a dad, he has the responsibility to emotionally protect the kids.

This situation definitely reveals the guys red flags.

The fact that the guy defended his lying mom is already alarming.

Did the fiancé even think about his mom's actions?

If he truly cared, he could've canceled the trip.

Looks like the OP's fiancé is a mama's boy.

Time to return the ring to the fiancé.

The OP should've considered the fiancé her ex the moment he defended his mom, the users thinks.

This is the ideal scenario.

The lying was intentional.

The fiancé is siding with a liar. Yikes!

In this situation, the fiance, sadly, is an enabler.

Given their two-year relationship, it's only natural for people to assume that the FMIL should already be showing love and respect to the OP's kids.

Why was the guy not appalled by his lying mother?

The OP and her kids deserve better treatment.

Redditors don't see the situation improving. The FMIL will just repeat her actions.

At least, the SIL's husband was concerned.

FMIL brought inconveniences to the OP's family because of a lie.

The FMIL was the root of this drama, not the OP.

There's nothing wrong with standing up against this kind of unfair treatment.

The real a-holes here are the FMIL and the OP's fiancé.

The OP and her kids will never be good enough for the FMIL.

The fiancé should have stood up for the OP.

The situation will only improve when fiancé and his family are out of their lives.

The FMIL is very much aware of her actions. Sadly, the fiancé doesn't consider them a problem.

The OP didn't spring her kids on the FMIL. All the FMIL needed to do was to be honest about it.

Sadly, the FMIL's attitude toward the OP's children won't change.

The fiancé's love for the girls might be superficial.

The fiancé's reaction is clearly a red flag.

This is disrespect and the OP's kids don't deserve this.

It's a good thing that the OP stood up for her kids.

If this Redditor were the OP, she would've dumped the fiancé.

This can't be considered springing the kids on the FMIL.

Part of being a family is the FMIL accepting the OP's kids.

If only the FMIL allowed the kids to go with them, it would've been a good opportunity to know and bond with each other.

Maybe he's just pretending he adores the girls.

The FMIL's attitude toward the OP's kids will never change. Unless the fiancé does something about it, the little ones will always be left out.

The OP stood up for her kids, but her fiancé wasn't cooperating. Eventually, the kids will notice this kind of disrespect, causing emotional pain.

Ultimately, the decision regarding the relationship rests with the OP, and many Redditors are advising her to run away from this man and his family.

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