Woman Refuses To Send Her Bf Extra Cash After He Spent Her Money On Buying Seafood For Family

"He probably didn't want to spend that money on them but it's hard saying no"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• March 25, 2023

It's not surprising that many people find it difficult to discuss their earnings because money has historically been a taboo subject. Asking for help of any kind requires vulnerability, and it can be particularly challenging when it comes to understanding how to ask for financial help.

But when you're struggling, asking for help from others can help you re-establish your financial stability. But then, there is actually something like asking for too much.

Imagine someone asking you for money over and over again for something that they can't account for. Then suddenly, you take a pause, and you discover this person is actually using you financially, maybe because you earn more or because they just want to misuse your kind gesture.

The original poster of today's story is someone who has been used by everyone around her financially. She also mentions that this has happened for years, so now she's extra greedy with her money, and she honestly refuses to loan money to anyone anymore.

Financially, the OP is better off than her boyfriend, and how he spends his money truly doesn't bother her unless it affects her directly. She loves to spoil her boyfriend as it makes her feel good, but on one occasion, the boyfriend did something that made her neglect his request.

Keep scrolling to read the entire story in the OP's own words below.

The headline

The OP gives a back story on why she has chosen to be extra greedy with her money

The OP's boyfriend was going out to buy a suit because he landed a BIG gig

It's not the OP's fault he chose to use her money to provide them with a meal

And the comments roll in...

You're not even obligated to fund him

He is being grossly irresponsible by his actions

You certainly don't need to finance his family

This Redditor won't give him any more money either

Don't think you're being greedy

You would have been a fool to give him more

You work a job you don't love

You are not obligated to spend on him either

He needs to start making better choices

For this Redditor, everyone else sounds like trash

You have to talk to him seriously about this

Why would your BF think that was a good idea?

He misused the fact that you were willing to help him

The dynamic where one partner makes more money

Essentially, the OP needs to stop being a spineless loser

He needs to find another way to buy his suit

It is good that you've set money boundaries

You are being treated as a cash machine

Redditors advised the OP not to marry someone who doesn’t have the same money values as her. They also added that at some point, her life would be dictated by their money choices, no matter how hard she tried to have that not happen.

Also, people learn to say No by learning that there are consequences. The OP was declared not the AH in this story.

Maryjane