Man Wonders If He's The A-Hole For Refusing To Let Go Of His Flimsy Old Chair, Fiancée Wants It Gone Because It Clashes With Their New Apartment's Aesthetic

The guy wants to keep the chair for its sentimental value.

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• Published in Interesting
• September 1, 2023

Clutter involves more than just the physical items that occupy our living spaces. It's a way that our feelings, thoughts, and actions become visible.

For a lot of people, decluttering can feel like a big challenge. But have you ever wondered why it's difficult to part with things that have lost their purpose?

The explanation can be found in the psychology behind clutter. One big reason we tend to keep clutter is because of sentimental feelings.

Things we own often carry memories and emotions, and saying goodbye to them might feel like losing a piece of who we are. Another reason is fear – fear of saying goodbye, fear of the future, and fear of losing something important.

Also, clutter can be a way we shield ourselves or feel safe. We hang on to things because they bring us comfort or remind us of what we know.

In today's post, we take a look at the story of a guy who finds it hard to let go of his old chair. He tells the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA) subreddit that he moved into an apartment with his fiancée.

She wants him to get rid of his chair because, on top of looking ugly, it doesn't fit into the apartment's aesthetic. The original poster (OP) is determined to keep it, but his fiancée is equally determined to discard it.

The OP wants to keep it because of its sentimental value. Through his college years up until his adulthood, the chair had done a lot for him.

He tells the community that while he loves his fiancée dearly, this is one thing he can't get rid of.

After an argument with his fiancée, the OP decided to let the AITA community be the judge.

The OP is adamant at keeping the chair because it holds special memories of his college days.

The OP shows the old chair to the community.

The OP's update

Seems like the chair has a mind of its own.

It's chosen to say farewell, likely because it's become a point of argument between the couple.

Well, well, well, guess who stumbled upon the OP's post? It's none other than his fiancée!

Even some Redditors agree that the chair should go. It's as good as trash, sadly.

A lot of Redditors took the fiancée's side.

Even garbage pickers would ignore a chair as flimsy as the OP's.

Mature people know when it's time to declutter. It's time to let go of the chair.

The chair is now broken, so the couple can finally stop arguing about whether or not to keep the chair. It has chosen to say goodbye, so the OP has no other choice but to get rid of it.

But even if the chair didn't break down, the OP still ought to get rid of it. It has served its purpose.

He could've just taken his girlfriend's offer and star creating new memories with a new set of furniture. It's a new home, so it makes sense to only include items that fit the aesthetic.

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