Man’s Secret College Fling With Longtime Friend Surfaces Days After Engagement, Leaving Fiancée In Ruins

“He assured me they had no history! Why would he lie?”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• December 7, 2023

Sometimes, hidden chapters from the past can rear their ugly heads at the absolute worst moments; this was precisely what happened to our narrator (Original Poster).

OP got wind of the most awful news just a few days after her engagement, and it really threw a wet blanket over things. OP and her partner had been together for four years, but their relationship wasn’t without its trials.

Though they had a history of trust issues and were currently undergoing couples therapy, they were determined to beat this stormy tide and come out winning. It wasn’t all just talks; in fact, they solidified this vow with an engagement!

A few friends gathered to celebrate the impending union. It was all laughter, clinking glasses, and heartfelt toasts—until a character from the past showed up. 

Her partner, oblivious or perhaps intentionally so, dedicated most of his attention to this mysterious woman, and the trust issues began to claw their way up again. 

This wasn’t the first time this mysterious figure caused turbulence in their relationship, but he insisted they never had history. So why was she hogging all his attention during their special day?

OP’s sixth sense was telling her something wasn’t right. She prodded him later on, and after applying the right amount of pressure, he finally admitted they shared a kiss during college—OP was shattered.

He gave flimsy excuses for lying about it all this while, but this didn’t stop her trust issues from pumping up to the max. 

OP really wanted their relationship to work; she didn’t want to make him cut off such an old friend either. Could she learn to trust them?

Let’s dig into the details

A bit of background

OP just found out that her husband’s long-time friend was his college sweetheart

OP needs advice on how to move on from this

Too long, didn’t read

Here’s how the Reddit community reacted to the story:

“Why not spend a bit more time working through your issues together and see how that goes.”

“I'd be more pissed he spent your entire engagement party with her.”

“This is like the story of the scorpion and the frog and you being all shocked Pikachu when he keeps lying to you.“

“Ignoring you at your engagement party to spend time with her is a bigger deal than him having kissed her 10 years ago.”

“Some people will tell you a kiss 10 years ago is no big deal, and maybe they’re right, but he actively lied to you NOW.“

“Just talk about your feelings and how he feels about her. Ask if he thinks she is a risk to his commitment to fidelity.“

Redditors delicately suggested that the couple might not be prepared for engagement, Let alone marriage.

They pointed out that OP’s trust issues and insecurities were so glaring in the post that her partner was probably scared she would overreact to an old college kiss—which she did. 

They definitely needed more time to work through issues. The point would come when they were ready for a union, but sadly, it wasn’t quite yet.

What do you think about this story? Let us know in the comments. 

Jesse