Woman Loses Control And Totals Fiance's Car, Now She's Refusing To Replace His Car Or Pay For The Damages

Should she replace her fiancé's old car with a new one after crashing it?

Lakeisha

• Published in Interesting
• December 21, 2022

One Reddit user, carwoes123, took the AITA subreddit to ask whether she's an a-hole for not wanting to replace her fiancé's car after she crashed it.

In a post she shared on the subreddit, carwoes123 said she stays in the UK, and it's currently very snowy where she resides. carwoes123 often drives her fiancé's car to work, but one day, she lost control on the ice and crashed into a metal barrier.

Thankfully, she survived the crash without any physical harm, but the front axle of the car and the body were so severely damaged that the insurer said it was almost certainly a write-off. While the insurance will make a payout, it won't be enough to cover the cost of buying a new car outrightly.

According to carwoes123, her fiancé told her she should make up the cost between the insurance payout and the cost of buying him a new car because she's at fault. carwoes123 said she doesn't have a problem with paying the lion's share of the cost of a new car but has a problem with buying it entirely on her own because:

1. the crash didn't happen because she was driving irresponsibly.

2. the car is old and has depreciated compared to a new car;

3. she's getting married to her fiancé in spring, and such purchases should be made together since they're getting joint finance.

However, her fiancé insists that she should pay for everything or else it would be unfair and unreasonable. carwoes123 also said he made a nasty joke about her being a female driver and doesn't seem bothered that she couldn't have gotten hurt from the accident.

Is carwoes123 an a-hole for not wanting to pay for a new car all by herself? Here's what the AITA community thinks.

This is how it started.

She's willing to pay, but is it worth it?

He wants her to replace the car.

1. She should replace the car with an equivalent, not a new one.

2. She should reconsider marrying him.

3. Her fiancé cares about a car more than her well-being.

4. She should replace a used car with a used car.

5. She should be concerned about getting married to him.

6. Her fiancé should pay the extra cost of getting a new car.

7. Her fiancé is trying to take advantage of her accident.

8. Her fiancé isn't entitled to a new car.

9. She should buy a new car if the one she damaged is new.

10. Her fiancé is giving her a taste of what their marriage would be like.

11. Her fiancé's behavior is enough to consider ending the relationship.

12. They should have a heart-to-heart conversation on all her concerns.

13. Her fiancé is trying to manipulate her financially.

14. Her fiancé is unreasonable for expecting her to buy him a new car.

15. It's much better if they agree to purchase a new car together.

16. She shouldn't have driven in the harsh weather.

17. Her fiancé is the ahole for wanting her to replace his old car with a new one.

18. She should pay more only if they would jointly own the new car.

19. Her fiancé is not emotionally ready for marriage.

20. Her fiancé is a misogynistic ahole.

What Do You Think?

Relationships are never easy and require healthy compromise to thrive. Compromise in a relationship involves finding the middle ground between both partners' wishes or preferences.

For many people, marriage is often the most intimate relationship they can experience, and one sure way to mess things up is by having unrealistic expectations of your partner.

What do you think OP should do?

Lakeisha