20-Year-Old Female, Who Is Being Parentified By Her Mom, Wants To Move Out Of Her Home

She feels like a single mom to her four younger siblings.

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• Published in Interesting
• February 8, 2022

Children are supposed to behave like children and teens should be teens. Sadly, some parents expect their children to behave like adults.

This is called parentification. It happens when parents expect their children to take on greater responsibilities in the household.

These young ones are being forced to be "mini parents" to their younger siblings. According to experts, parentification negatively impacts a child's development.

We know that it's completely fine to teach children some responsibility. After all, it helps them be ready for the real world.

But when those responsibilities become excessive, it takes away their energy from doing what they're supposed to do as youths. Parents should give their children the time to grow, mature, and learn.

Today, we're looking at the story of a 20-year-old woman. Her mom constantly pushes her into taking care of her four younger siblings.

She posted her experience on Reddit and her plans of moving out in the Am I the A**hole subreddit (AITA). According to the young lady, she feels like a single mom to her siblings than their mom.

Is she wrong for wanting to move out? This is what she wanted to know when she asked the community.

Redditors were generally supportive of her decision. Let's take a look at their responses.

The original poster narrates her story.

Her plans to move out

At this point, the mom is and will keep taking advantage of her daughter.

The original poster doesn't believe that her mom would be able to cope once she's gone.

Calling the CPS could be the answer.

Some suggested the next best steps after she finally moves out.

She needs to give some instructions to her siblings too.

The original poster needs to prepare for when her mom takes the steps to prevent her from leaving.

Contacting the fathers of her siblings is also a good start.

No matter how much she loves her siblings, they are still not her responsibility. The original poster has her own life to live.

She needs to take charge of her life. Otherwise, she'll be robbed of her young adult life.

Sadly, she doesn't know who the fathers of her siblings are.

What the mom needs to do

Or she could take care of them herself. That's an option too.

Even from afar, she can still check on her siblings.

She finally learns what her situation is called.

The original poster has the choice.

This is understandable.

Her mom is manipulative.

In the first place, the original poster isn't supposed to be the parent.

Accurate.

She needs to take care of herself before taking care of her siblings.

The mom isn't being a mother to her children.

Sadly, the original poster is more involved in her siblings' lives. It's hard to make a decision is such a situation.

We hope that the original poster finds the best solution to this problem. With such an irresponsible mother, it's probably best to involve the CPS.

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