Woman Has Had It With Her Boyfriend Who Failed To Feed Her Cats On Time And Lacks The Initiative To Care For Pets

She wonders if she was wrong for expecting her boyfriend to feed the pets.

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• Published in Interesting
• January 29, 2023

It's always best for cats to have a routine. If you own one, you will notice that they have a daily habit.

Since felines are territorial creatures, their routine will be based on your schedule. Now, you may think that cats live boring lives.

But for these creatures, routines and habits help them feel secure. If their normal activity gets disrupted, it stresses them out.

That's probably why a cat owner, who recently aired her sentiments on the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA), became angry after her boyfriend failed to feed her cats on time. It was Christmas that day.

The original poster (OP) said that she went to her parents to celebrate while her boyfriend was at his parents, who live in the same building. When she arrived home at 7 PM, she became angry at the sight of her boyfriend feeding her cats late.

The fur balls were supposed to have their meal at 4 PM. At first, she was only frustrated.

But she suddenly shut down when her boyfriend asked her why she didn't remind him. She was sick of her boyfriend having no initiative for the pets.

The boyfriend walked out and stayed with his parents. After what happened, she asked the community if she was wrong for expecting her boyfriend to feed her cats and for acting the way she did.

The OP knows that cats get stressed if something disrupts their routine.

The OP and her boyfriend got into a fight because the latter forgot to feed the cats.

Was she wrong for overreacting? She asks the community.

Most people agree that the OP and her boyfriend were at fault.

The OP will talk to the boyfriend once they both have cooled down.

The OP should be thankful that her boyfriend fed her cats, according to this Redditor.

If she can't feed them on schedule, she needs to find a way.

In this case, she can always remind her boyfriend.

A few Redditors believe that it's okay to feed cats late sometimes.

Although the OP was judged for what she did wrong, she appreciates a Redditor's advice.

If this doesn't happen all the time, the cats will be fine.

It wasn't right to take it out on him.

A few people were on her side. This Redditor, in particular, pointed out how domestic duties can be hard on women.

Communication is key in every relationship.

Cat owners ensure the OP that it's okay to feed felines late. Free feeding is also an option.

A few users didn't like that the boyfriend didn't follow the cat's routine.

Poor communication is the problem between this couple, according to this Redditor.

The OP appreciates what the community has been pointing out.

The OP was too strict about her cat's routine.

The OP needs to be understanding since Christmas is a busy season.

Redditors agree that she indeed overreacted.

She needs to acknowledge her boyfriend's effort too.

She was wrong for taking it out on her boyfriend because she's exhausted.

A couple of Redditors believe that he needed to do his part by feeding the cats on time.

What happened is a learning lesson for both the OP and her boyfriend. This would not have happened if the couple had communicated well.

Maybe the cats were an instrument for both of them to learn something about proper communication in a relationship. And if the cats' routines are an issue, the OP can always choose to free-feed them whenever she's away.

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