Man Marries New Wife And His Son Accuses Him Of Being A Neglectful Father

One Redditor decided to share the pains of loosing his dad to a new family.

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• July 5, 2022

When we hear the word "family," we typically think of a mother, father, and children all living together under one roof. But it's a lot more complicated than that nowadays.

In fact, the family dynamic has changed drastically over the years, particularly when it comes to divorce and remarriage.

Kids of divorced parents often feel like they're stuck in the middle, and it's not an easy position to be in. Sometimes they're forced to choose sides, or they may feel like they're not really part of either family.

It can be a confusing and difficult time for them, especially if their parents remarry and start new families. It's often a struggle for attention and love.

For one young man, the divorce of his parents and his father's subsequent remarriage had a profound effect on him. He took to Reddit to share his story in the hopes of getting some advice on how to deal with the situation.

The man, who goes by the username AdOne2939, explained that his parents divorced when he was just a baby. When he was nine years old, his relationship with his dad took a turn for the worse.

When I was 9 he met Kirsten and her three kids, who were younger than me. Once they started seriously dating he stopped making an effort to do stuff just us. The Redditor said.

He added that;

Once they moved in I couldn't even get in the car with him for a drive just the two of us.

As time went on, things only got worse. And now, the Redditor's refusal to partake in their upcoming family vacation might just mean that he's ready to sever ties with his father for good.

The Redditor shared his story under the sub-reedit, AITA

The young man explained that his relationship with his dad became strained after he remarried

In a bid to sort out the issue, his step mom, Kristen asked him to move in with them. However, the author wasn't ready to move in with a man that couldn't make out time for him

This incident right here broke the camel's back

Now it seems the author is gradually drifting away from his dad's new family

A lot of users had so much to say about the incident. We've gathered a few responses for your viewing pleasure.

"Speaking as somebody from a family of divorce, what your dad did was wrong"

"I'm sorry you have to deal with this but know you have family who love you"

"NTA. Your dad, however, is a giant AH"

"Tell your dad that he got the family he wanted and you don't want consolation prizes"

"Calling her YOUR MOTHER seems super disrespectful to your ACTUAL MOTHER"

"Honestly, your dad is the main AH there"

"They are trying to ride over your valid decisions with manipulative tactics"

"Definitely a shitty situation to feel second fiddle to the other kids"

"Stay with your mother as much as possible until you can legally go NC with him"

"Your dad is reaping what he sowed"

Strong question here

"Send him this post, where everyone is calling him an AH. Maybe he will realize how big of an AH he is to his own child"

Emotional manipulation or not?

"Love is not conditional or transactional, and it's not love if you have to beg or bargain for it"

"They wanted to use you as a third parent or a babysitter for their kids"

The young man's story is heartbreaking, and it is easy to understand why he feels the way he does. For a child who grew up seeing his parents apart, it makes sense that he would need a lot of attention and love.

However, the fact that his father is trying to include him in the family vacation is a good sign, but it will likely take some time for the young man to forgive and forget. Hopefully, they can eventually rebuild their relationship.

Jesse