Woman Makes It Clear That She Doesn't Want Her Inlaws Interfering In Their Family Vacation, Husband Accuses Her Of Hurting Their Feelings

"I love my husband’s family but it’d just be too much"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• January 20, 2024

Going on a vacation is one way to ease off stress and just relax. When you feel like it, have the time for it and you're able to afford it, you can schedule your own trips.

There are times when you can even schedule an appropriate combined trip with your family. But what happens when your extended family gets upset that you organized your own trips the way you deem fit without involving them?

Yes, it's fun to travel with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, but making fresh travel memories with your own family is what really matters. The OP and her husband were planning a vacation for them and their two kids.

They will be gone for 8 days in the summer, and they've saved for this trip for years. They were super excited for it, but then her husband’s family invited them to spend some days with them, as their vacation place is about 3 hours away.

The OP suggested 3–4 days with his family, then they'd go to the actual vacation spot. The OP also set the boundary that they'd stay in a hotel, but things changed later on.

The husband’s family decided to go to their vacation spot for the full 8 days, and that's when the hints began that they'd all get a house to rent. The OP didn't like this arrangement, and she brought her story online to get people's opinions.

The headline

With the kids getting older, the OP and her husband doesn’t get a lot of time with them

The husband's family visits once or twice a year so it’s not like they don’t see them

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

1) not wanting to spend the whole vacation with family 2) they are just excited and want to visit with us.

The Reddit post got hundreds of comments and here are a bunch of them

The OP got one that is nonrefundable

OP wants to spend time with her own family

They can feel free to toughen up

OP reveals why they selected that particular vacation spot

We chose this spot because it’s somewhere our kids have always wanted to go. Of course we can’t give them everything they want in life, but now we can finally afford it. As I said, we never get to vacation and I wanted to give this to them.

The OP should hold her ground and enforce her boundary

The OP is being reasonable

OP will be frustrated and sad

This Redditor has a similar story to share

Someone inviting themselves to a party

The OP chose that spot because it’s somewhere her kids have always wanted to go. The OP knows she can’t give them everything they want in life, but now that they can finally afford it, she wants some private family time.

Redditors said that the OP and her husband need to stop considering whether to give in to excessive demands as a healthy option because someone will make them pay for it emotionally. The OP was declared not the AH eventually.

Maryjane