Manipulative Family Conspires To Hide From Teenager That Her Boyfriend Fathered Her Older Sister's Baby, Kicks Her Out When She Refuses To Pretend All Was Okay

Warning: messy family drama ahead!

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• May 11, 2024

One chance encounter with an estranged relative rattled the foundations of the new life a 28-year-old spent 12 years rebuilding. OP was 16 years old when she was kicked out of her parent's house after she refused to get past her boyfriend fathering her older sister's child.

OP and her 19-year-old boyfriend had been together for four years at that point. She thought they knew everything about each other, but her boyfriend forgot to mention that he was a sperm donor.

They only suspected he was the biological father of her 29-year-old sister's daughter weeks before the child's first birthday. OP's mom and her sister, Ally, conceded that a DNA test to determine the child's paternity was necessary.

Ally brought one cousin into her confidence. That cousin blabbed about the DNA test to the entire clan, leaving only OP out of the loop.

They held family meetings over several weeks to decide whether or not OP should be informed. Three months later, when the paternity was confirmed, OP was told about the secret everyone else already knew.

They tried to persuade OP to act like nothing had changed and not break up with her boyfriend. When she refused, her parents kicked her out of the house without any of her possessions.

Nine years later, OP agreed to move her family back to her hometown. She had gone unnoticed by any relative until a distant cousin saw her and rushed into a speech about how everyone missed her.

She received innumerable Facebook messages from people she was biologically related to who implied a reconciliation brokered magically because of OP's fourth child.

OP discussed the situation with her husband and decided on the best way to handle it.

She created a group chat with all of her biological relations to remind them point by point of what they had done to her all those years ago.

She said those reasons were enough to convince her not to subject herself, especially her kids, to their toxic behaviors.

Her family tried to revise history and accused OP of abandoning them because she had a falling out with her sister.

They also accused her husband of holding her captive and keeping "their" grandchildren away from them. OP blocked all of them

OP explained why she refused to entertain the idea that her 29-year-old sister slept with her 18-year-old ex-boyfriend.

OP didn't voluntarily leave the family home. She was given no choice after she refused to play family with her sister and the baby.

Ally and her husband are still together and have had two more children through fertility treatments as far as OP was aware. Her ex-boyfriend reached out to her, but OP refused to speak to him.

Despite OP's refusal to consider the alternative because it adds another layer of ick to the already murky situation, Redditors were convinced the child was a product of an affair.

Their best advice was for OP to proceed as she had done the past 12 years. Whatever they do, unless it affects her family, does not concern her.

Her biological relatives are no better than strangers to OP and her family. Their recent actions proved they haven't changed since the night they started conspiring against OP.

OP's only concern should be her mental health and the happiness of her family. The mess her former family tried to bring is none of her business.

Chelsi