Responsible Mother Called Selfish By Unreasonable Friend For Prioritizing Family Over Baby Shower

Her friend assured her that the baby shower wouldn't be held on the day when she wasn't free, but scheduled it on that day anyway.

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• Published in Interesting
• June 10, 2024

When no one can take care of her child, it's natural for a mother to prioritize her little one over other commitments. That's why this Redditor is puzzled after her friend became upset with her for deciding not to attend a social event, even going as far as to call her selfish.

The Redditor told the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA) community that she had to reject an invite to an important event. According to the original poster (OP), it's her friend's baby shower.

The OP's friend is due in four weeks, and another friend organized a brunch for the coming weekend as a baby shower celebration. Before planning, the organizer asked everyone for available dates and places.

She informed her friend that Saturday was a no-go for her because her husband would be working, leaving no one to watch their baby. Plus, she needed to drop her parents at the airport as they would be flying back to their country.

The organizer assured OP that the event wouldn’t be on that day, but she ended up scheduling it for Saturday anyway. Additionally, she chose a restaurant that’s a three-minute walk for her but a forty-minute drive for the OP, making the total commute nearly 90 minutes.

When she explained that she couldn’t attend for these reasons, the organizer began guilt-tripping her, insisting that as the only mother in the group, the OP had to be there. She even suggested that the OP ask her husband not to work or her family to delay their flight.

Despite explaining her situation and apologizing, the organizer continued to bombard her with texts calling the OP selfish and accusing her of not supporting women. The Redditor felt frustrated, believing that the organizer knew her limitations from the start and was now acting as if this information was new.

Given the OP's situation, it's natural for her not to go to the event. But her friend calls her selfish, anyway.

She tells the AITA community about the upcoming baby shower for her pregnant friend.

According to another friend who's organizing everything, the event won't fall on the day she isn't available.

The organizer then settled on a restaurant that's far from the OP.

This friend started pestering her to come because she's the only mom in their circle of friends.

But how can she attend when the event is scheduled for the one day she specifically said she couldn't make it?

Now, she's being called selfish by her friend for choosing not to attend.

Redditors smell something fishy in this situation.

After the OP revealed that she and her friends are in one group chat, Redditors suggested she also express her frustration and let the pregnant friend know about it too.

It's a good idea to hangout with the pregnant friend, so she can hand her gift over.

But it's probably not a good idea to talk about the organizer behind her back unless she no longer wants to be friends with this person.

With no one to watch over her baby, the OP just can't go.

The OP has already done enough, so it's on her fried to understand her situation.

If there's one person being selfish in this situation, it's the organizer who scheduled the event despite knowing that the OP couldn't come that day. The OP has done her part by explaining her side.

It's simply not possible for her to attend, especially since her husband has important commitments and there's no babysitter available for her baby.

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