The OP always invited her Kids' girlfriends to family lunch on her birthday
The OP wanted to do something intimate with her family and spiritual
The OP made a point of excluding her which shows that she still doesn't see her as part of the family
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:
1 for excluding my DIL from family lunch
2 she thought it was extremely coincidental that right in the year that she was my sole DIL I made a point of excluding her and this shows that I still don't see her as part of the family
Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say
She's about to have the OP's first grandchild
The OP should make it make sense
Family invited family to whatever they're hosting
The OP should apologize for being a monster inlaw
It looks like she was excluded
The OP handled the entire situation badly
The OP should not be surprised when she's left out
That birthday was a very delicate and challenging one for the OP as she is still in the process of recovering. In the long term, the son's fiance will remain family, but some Redditors insisted that it's not every occasion that needs to involve the entire family but this was different.
It's acceptable to want to spend time with your spouse and children alone but the OP was told to try to make sure her DIL knew she didn't have any problems with her. It was declared that there was no AHs in the story.