Recovering Mom Organizes Intimate Family Lunch To Celebrate Her Birthday, Soon-To-Be DIL Feels Sad As She Isn't Invited

"I want to do something intimate with my family"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• February 11, 2024

Smaller family get-togethers have grown in popularity as we cope with the new normal. Intimate festivities, such as birthday parties, family reunions, or small weddings, offer a more meaningful and personalized experience for all those involved.

Smaller family get-togethers offer a more personal atmosphere that fosters deeper conversations and bonds among attendees. It's a chance to reconnect with loved ones, exchange stories and recollections, and make new ones.

It can be quite difficult to leave your birthday in the hands of someone else because people are simply different, and what is enjoyable to one person may be agony to another! The OP didn't get to celebrate her birthday because she was in a coma due to an accident.

She was in a delicate situation for months and is currently not 100% recovered, but she's immensely grateful for being alive. Also, she is able to celebrate another year of life, even when the doctor told her husband and three adult kids that she might become vegetative.

The OP wanted to do something very personal for her birthday, so she and her husband decided that they would say a family prayer with a pastor and give thanks for her health. Then we had an extremely intimate family lunch, but her son's pregnant fiancee was sad that she wasn't invited.

Before the accident, the OP would always invite her kids' partners, but now she doesn't invite her soon-to-be daughter-in-law, so she believes the OP hasn't fully accepted her yet.

The headline

The OP always invited her Kids' girlfriends to family lunch on her birthday

The OP wanted to do something intimate with her family and spiritual

The OP made a point of excluding her which shows that she still doesn't see her as part of the family

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

1 for excluding my DIL from family lunch

2 she thought it was extremely coincidental that right in the year that she was my sole DIL I made a point of excluding her and this shows that I still don't see her as part of the family

Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say

She's about to have the OP's first grandchild

The OP should make it make sense

Family invited family to whatever they're hosting

The OP should apologize for being a monster inlaw

It looks like she was excluded

The OP handled the entire situation badly

The OP should not be surprised when she's left out

That birthday was a very delicate and challenging one for the OP as she is still in the process of recovering. In the long term, the son's fiance will remain family, but some Redditors insisted that it's not every occasion that needs to involve the entire family but this was different.

It's acceptable to want to spend time with your spouse and children alone but the OP was told to try to make sure her DIL knew she didn't have any problems with her. It was declared that there was no AHs in the story.

Maryjane