Baby Name Drama Kicks Off After Expecting Mom's Brother Found Out The Name She Intended Giving Her Baby

"He says he wants to carry on the family tradition"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• July 7, 2023

One of the most enjoyable aspects of pregnancy is naming the child, but it may also be riddled with turmoil. Should we use the standard spelling or something more unusual?

Should we take the chance and choose something ultra-masculine, ultra-feminine, or gender neutral? Should we take the ancestral name without first asking the family?

Still, choosing the ideal name for your child is one of the major achievements of parenthood. Parents understand that a child's name becomes a part of their identity, so you only have one chance to choose well.

In order to find a name that will fit their child, parents frequently think about it for months, just like the OP and her husband did. They chose one name for a girl and one name for a boy before the OP even got pregnant.

The OP and her husband recently found out the gender of their baby. They are already set on the boy's name, which is the OP's paternal grandfather‘s first name, and her husband’s father’s first name as the middle name.

OP's brother got to hear of it and told her that he has dibs on that name for his hypothetical first son. The thing is, the OP's brother has two daughters, and his wife is not pregnant.

Still, he doesn't want the OP to take the name, as "he wants to carry on the family tradition." Read the full story in the OP's own words below.

The story's title

OP's brother found out that the first name is going to be their paternal grandfather‘s name and he has a major problem with it

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

1) the action I took that might make me the ass hole is that I chose a family name for my baby (due this winter) that my brother has “dibs” on for his hypothetical future son.

2) this might make me an ass hole because my brother wants the name to carry on a family tradition and I got married and have a new last name; thus, carrying on a family first name only.

This redditor is wishing the OP good luck

The OP should tell the brother to take a hike

Who's says the OP's brother is going to have a son?

They don't apply to hypothetical babies that might never happen

Names aren't something that you reserve

OP's brother doesn't own the name and he can still use the name

Both of them can use the name for their respective children

The family tradition thing is a little confusing to the OP

He doesn't get dibs because he's a guy

He called it on someone who doesn't even exist

The responsibility of a parent to give their child a decent name, however, does not end when it appears on a birth certificate. Throughout their upbringing, you should continue to give your child a nice name, as these names will be equally significant.

The OP was considered not the AH and you can drop your thoughts about this story in the comments section below.

Maryjane