Expert Identifies The Tell-Tale Phrases When She's Not Interested
Don’t worry, we’ve all been there or at least know someone who has.
We've all been there, wondering if someone actually means what they're saying or if there's something hidden beneath the surface. Dating can be tricky enough without trying to decode cryptic phrases.
A dating expert recently revealed what women might actually mean when they use certain common phrases. TikTok coach Blaine Anderson broke down four specific phrases that women often use when they want to turn someone down gently without being blunt.
Dating can be complicated, and turning someone down is never easy. People often use soft language to avoid hurting someone else's feelings or to make a rejection seem less harsh. Anderson shared insights on her TikTok channel on April 5, diving into what women say versus what they might genuinely mean.
First off, there's the classic, "I don't want to ruin our friendship." On the surface, this seems thoughtful - like someone truly values your friendship above all else. But Anderson clarifies the hidden meaning behind these words. What she's actually saying is probably closer to: "I'm just not attracted to you in that way, but you're a good friend, and I really don't want to make things awkward or hurt your feelings."
Essentially, if she were genuinely attracted, she might risk exploring a romantic connection even at the potential cost of the friendship. After all, few people pass up the chance at true attraction because of friendship alone. If you've heard this, it's probably best to take it as a polite rejection rather than holding out hope.
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Next up is the well-worn line, "I'm so bad at texting." Let's face it - almost everyone is attached to their phones these days, constantly connected and responsive when they're genuinely interested. Anderson decodes this phrase as well, translating it to mean, "I'm not really interested, but I'm responding to you out of politeness."
It's an attempt to slowly phase out the conversation, hoping that fewer replies and less enthusiasm will naturally bring the conversation to a halt. Rather than dragging things out, a more direct approach might be kinder and save everyone's valuable time.
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Another frequently heard phrase is, "I don't post who I date on social media." Social media complicates relationships significantly, making privacy a highly sensitive issue. According to Anderson, when someone says they "don’t post who they're dating," it often translates to something like, "I don’t really want other people to know we’re dating yet."
This might indicate hesitation about commitment or uncertainty about whether this new relationship is ready for public scrutiny. If you hear this phrase, consider it a gentle indication that your relationship may need more time or clarity before it’s openly shared.
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Thankfully, Anderson's insights also contain some genuinely good news. The phrase "You're funny" is often genuinely sincere. It typically means, "I like this conversation and enjoy talking with you; keep it going." So, if you get told you're funny, you're probably on the right track.
However, as Anderson playfully hints, the real test comes down to whether they reply with an enthusiastic "haha" or a lukewarm "aha." It's evidence that even sincere compliments can sometimes leave us overanalyzing the details.
Understanding these hidden meanings can help clear up confusion and manage expectations realistically. Of course, open and honest communication would always be ideal, but dating interactions are often layered and nuanced.
While decoding these common phrases doesn’t make rejection any less disappointing, it can at least help clarify intentions, saving both parties from unnecessary confusion or false hope.
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