Woman Tells Her Parents To Pay For Her Wedding Because They Want It Four Times More Expensive Than The Budget She Set

The couple just want a $10K-worth of wedding in Jamaica.

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• Published in Interesting
• January 31, 2023

Overbearing parents who want to interfere with the wedding of their children is a situation we hear about a lot. So how would you handle parents who want to take over your wedding plans?

According to experts, it's better to let your partner know about the problem. The couple needs to discuss how they'll handle the situation and as early as now, think of other instances where parents will surely interfere with plans.

Whether it's your family or your partner's family, it's best to speak to the parents or soon-to-be in-laws as a couple. Calmly talk about your fears, concerns, and everything that's bothering you.

And don't forget to choose the right words. But when your parents contribute to or pay for the wedding in full, this is where it gets tricky.

Parents who pay for the wedding feel that they have a say in every aspect of the wedding. But in the end, remember that it's your wedding.

You and your partner are the only ones who get to decide how it goes. It's a big day for both of you, after all.

Today's post is about a woman who told her parents to pay for her wedding because they want it to be more expensive than what she and her fiancé want. She asked the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA) community to be the judge.

The couple want a wedding in Jamaica while the original poster's (OP's) mom want a big church wedding.

What the mom wants is a lot more expensive than what she and her fiancé are planning.

The mom is misunderstanding the OP here.

There's nothing wrong with sticking to their plans. The couple decides where they want to get married.

How we wish all parents are like this when it comes to their child's wedding.

Awesome parents pay for their child's wedding and never interfere with it.

A sad reality

The rule that couples need to set for their wedding

Parents who pay for the wedding expect their child to let them have a say in the wedding.

Let the wedding plans be the choice of the couple. Parents shouldn't interfere.

The OP might do the same thing.

Parents should only state their opinions. What happens to the wedding, in the end, is up to their child.

If you only read the title, you'd think that OP is in the wrong, but...

What the couple want for their wedding will always take priority.

The OP is okay with her parents' plans as long as they pay for it.

Some brides allowed their mom to plan for the wedding and they had a stress-free celebration.

Other people chose elopement so that their parents won't have a say in their wedding.

For some reason, some parents become entitled during their child's wedding planning.

Some chose a beach wedding with only the officiant and the musician.

Nobody should be entitled to someone else's wedding plans, whether they contributed or not.

The OP's mom wants to hold a her daughter's wedding for her friends. Yikes!

If the OP's parents do not pay for the wedding, she and her fiancé should just hold it wherever they prefer. It's their special day, so they need to make it memorable for each other.

And if you're a parent reading this, we hope that you don't pressure your sons and daughters into a wedding they don't want. You may give opinions, but let them decide how they want things.

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