Financially Controlling Boyfriend Gets Mad At Girlfriend For Using Her Education Money On Expensive Cat Surgery

"My cat had a urinary blockage and needed emergency surgery to save his life."

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• Published in Interesting
• April 2, 2024

Even before marriage, money issues can plague some relationships. People who don't have similar priorities when it comes to finances often find themselves arguing over the smallest of things to the biggest of issues.

Take a look at this couple as an example. The original poster (OP) shared her story with the AmItheButtface subreddit.

The OP tells the community that her boyfriend doesn't like the way she spends money on her cat. The particular problem she brought up was when she spent $2,690 on her cat's surgery.

The cat had a urinary blockage and required emergency surgery to save his life. Despite being tight on finances, the OP decided to use her savings, originally meant for community college, to cover the medical expenses.

Her pet holds a special place in her heart, having helped her through a period of depression. While the OP's significant other expressed concern about her financial well-being and viewed the decision as impulsive, she stood by her choice to save her beloved pet.

She asked the community if she was the buttface for spending that much money on a beloved cat. Despite the disagreement, the community rallied around her, offering support and advice for future financial challenges.

And at the end of her post, she paid her cat tax.

The OP wondered if she was the buttface for spending more than two grand on pet surgery. (She also meant cat here.)

The gist of the situation.

The only way to save the cat's life is for it to undergo surgery.

What the cat had done for the OP is reason enough for her to be willing to let go of the money she saved for the surgery.

The OP is firm on her decision even if her boyfriend is against it.

The boyfriend was so upset at her decision. It seems that they can't meet halfway on this issue.

Some updates from the OP regarding her cat.

Things aren't looking good for the couple, but it seems that her cat is on the road to healing.

The OP's cat tax.

The boyfriend is going beyond his boundaries as a partner.

They're not yet sharing their finances, so he has no say about what she decides to do with her money.

The OP should look into pet insurance so that she doesn't have to spend that much money in one go.

Even other cat lovers would do the same thing as the OP did.

The OP feels that this relationship is beyond repair after her decision.

The boyfriend is showing his entitlement over the OP's money.

It's a red flag, especially since the money is being used to save a life.

The OP and her boyfriend are clearly not on the same page when it comes to the importance of pets. He feels entitled to her money even when he still has zero business with it.

While her boyfriend may not fully understand the depth of their bond, the OP stands by her decision to prioritize her pet's health, seeing it as a heartfelt gesture of love and care for her beloved furry friend.

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