Woman Slams Estranged Husband With Ultimatum To Either Be More Present For Their Kids Or Stay Out Of Their Lives For Good

“Step up for our kids or step away forever!”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• August 11, 2023

In today’s world, broken homes have become a common unfortunate reality. They cast shadows that often fall most heavily on innocent hearts—children caught in the crossfire of adult decisions.

The dissolution of a relationship doesn't have to mean the dissolution of parental responsibilities, but some fail to understand this.

This theme becomes all too real in the case of our narrator (Original Poster). OP had just found out about her husband's affair, and this led to their separation.

He decided to relocate to be closer to his mistress, leaving OP behind with their two young children. At first, he played his role as a devoted father, making regular visits and Facetime calls.

However, over time, his visits and communication dwindled. It almost seemed like he was nonchalant about the well-being of his kids, as he would go days without any visits or calls. In addition to this, OP’s husband made no effort to contribute financially.

On one occasion, OP's daughter tearfully pleaded to talk to her dad, so she sent him a text explaining the situation. What she got back was a lackluster excuse—apparently, he was at a 4-day music festival and would be unavailable for a few days.

Not wanting to upset her 3-year-old, OP tried to soften the blow by saying he was busy. But when the little one innocently blurted out, "He doesn't love me anymore," it pushed OP to the breaking point.

Now OP wonders if it would be unreasonable to present him with an ultimatum: "Commit wholeheartedly to your children or remain absent forever."

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Let's dig into the details

OP's husband moved out after cheating and has been growing distant from the kids ever since

OP is fed up with his behavior and wants to give him an ultimatum to make up or get out of their lives

Important edit

Here's how the Reddit community reacted to the story:

"You need to get legal involved otherwise this will become an emotional and mental drain on you."

"NTA. But You need a schedule. Kids do well with a routine."

"So heartbreaking that your daughter thinks her father doesnt love her."

"Get court-mandated child support and figure out visitation."

"You would be the a**hole to make the choice without going all the legal routes first."

"If he doesn’t show interest, ask him to relinquish parental rights."

"NTA but it's time to get a formalised agreement via court."

"You may not want his money, but you need his money for child support."

"At least you and the kids will know where you stand, instead of living in limbo."

When couples part ways due to irreconcilable differences, both parents must ensure that they provide the necessary love and care that the children need. 

The Reddit community rallied behind OP, encouraging her to urge her ex to step up in any way necessary. The commenters also suggested that visitation could be enforced using a lawyer if need be.

They all agree that the children deserve no less than the undivided love of both parents.

Do you agree with this verdict? Let us know what you think in the comments. 

Jesse