Woman Having Trouble With Mom Who Thinks She Has Unlimited Right To Her Car She Lets Her Borrow

"I have a car but leave it with my mom because she doesn't have one, and told her she could use it."

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• April 22, 2023

Family dynamics can be complex and multi-faceted, shaped by a variety of factors such as individual personalities, societal norms, and cultural traditions. In some families, it is not uncommon for parents to exhibit entitled behavior towards their children.

These behaviors can manifest in different ways, from making unreasonable demands to expecting their children always to put their needs first. While it is natural for parents to want the best for their children, it is important to recognize when their behavior crosses the line into entitlement and how it can impact their relationship with their children.

We have one of those stories today. Let's check it out together.

OP's mother has entitled moments and sometimes disrupts OP's schedule when they use their car after returning from work. OP pays for the car note and insurance, and they inform their mother of their plans in advance.

On one occasion, OP agreed to take their niece to a club, and on another occasion, they dropped off their mother for blood work, assuming she would walk back, but later found out that the place was too busy. When OP explained they needed the car for their own appointments, their mother became upset, leaving OP wondering if they were being unreasonable.

Read the full story below:

OP asks:

OP's mother has entitled moments and sometimes disrupts OP's schedule when they use their car after returning from work.

On one occasion, OP agreed to take their niece to a club, and on another occasion, they dropped off their mother for blood work, assuming she would walk back, but later found out that the place was too busy.

When OP explained they needed the car for their own appointments, their mother became upset, leaving OP wondering if they were being unreasonable.

So, now she asks the Reddit crowd for advice

OP should tell mom that the car is off-limits when she is home

Mom has no right to be angry with OP for using her own property.

This is also true:

There are so many options

"She thinks of this car as her car"

Nicely put

This Redditor agrees. OP should have a good talk with her mom

This Redditor shared their experience:

And it sounds awfully similar to the original story

Sounds about right:

The story highlights the challenges that can arise in a family dynamic when a parent displays entitled behavior towards their child. OP's mother, despite not being entitled as a person, exhibited entitled moments that caused tension and inconvenience for OP.

These moments included requests that disrupted OP's schedule, such as asking for a ride to the doctor without an appointment. Despite the frustrations, OP was able to manage the situation by communicating their needs and priorities with their mother.

The story serves as a reminder that it is important for both parents and children to recognize each other's needs and boundaries, communicate effectively, and avoid allowing entitled behavior to harm their relationship.

Damjan