Man Shares How He Handled His Brother And Girlfriend Who Decided To Turn Their One-Night Visit Into Mini-Vacation

"I have had enough and I tell them it's time to pack it up"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• August 31, 2023

Lack of structure, limits on discipline, consistency in application, and minimal parental involvement are all traits of permissive parenting. It's excellent that most parents who employ liberal parenting are often nice and affectionate with their children.

However, over time, a lack of limitations and boundaries may have unforeseen effects. A child's interactions with teachers, friends, and authority figures may suffer if their parents don't enforce certain limitations and educate them to respect themselves and others.

OP's father was strict with him but was very permissive with his younger brother. When the OP turned 18, his father sat him down and told him that he was going to start paying rent.

The OP moved out when he was 23, but his little brother stayed home with their father until he was 25 and never paid a cent in rent. Not just that, OP's father gave him his first car free of charge, paid the insurance, and even paid him his gas, so when he was working, all his income was free play money.

Now OP's younger brother thought he could get that same treatment in OP's house. This is a house the OP and his wife built from the foundation up.

They just moved in with their 2-year-old, and his brother said he wanted to come over for a night. The OP accepted but later regretted his decision.

Keep scrolling to read the entire story in the OP's own words below.

The headline

OP's little brother stayed home with their father until he was 25

They end up paying but tell him that they are low on cash and can't do this again

They start seeing the trend and open starts telling his wife they need to kick them out soon

OP's brother thought he could get a five day vacation at his house with free food and board from them

A little more context/update from the OP

I had not seen my brother more then once a year(for no more then 2 hours at a time) after I moved out, that was a 10 years time period. Since this visit we have seen him just once a year still, only when getting together for our small family (Xmas or Thanks Giving).

I have not even gone to his apartment not once. Since my son was born he has not once tried to really interact with him and with the second one he was even less willing to even see the little one. My wife always asks why I don't want to keep in contact, I just remember this visit.

And the comments roll in...

The OP seems like he came out pretty okay

It all depends on the person

The OP could have said no from the very start

Day one is enough to get kicked out

The OP did more than he had to

Many redditors agreed that if their father keeps on supporting him, it is unlikely that the brother will change in the least. Since the OP's brother doesn't have to work for anything, he doesn't understand its value as he feels he has a right to demand things.

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Maryjane