Woman Tries To Talk Sister Into Going To Cousin's Wedding, Calls Her Reasons Selfish And Warns About Burning Few Bridges She Has Left

"She knows she’s going to be criticized for her lifestyle and looks."

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• July 13, 2023

Weddings can be a beautiful occasion where families gather to celebrate love and unity. These events provide an opportunity for family members to connect, laugh, dance, and create memorable moments.

However, not everyone sees weddings in this light. Some view them as an exhausting blend of personal scrutiny and comparison. This was the case for OP's sister.

OP, a concerned sibling, is contemplating whether she would be out of line if she expressed her view on her sister's refusal to attend a family member's wedding. She has yet to voice her opinion, but her patience is waning, and she feels that her sister's reason for not attending is selfish.

OP is dealing with a tough situation because her sister has decided not to go to a family wedding. The sister, who is worried about people judging her for her lifestyle, doesn't want to go even though their parents are happy to pay for her trip.

OP gets that it's her sister's choice, but she thinks the reasoning is kind of selfish. She's also feeling the heat to stand up for her sister's choice to their parents, which is no easy job. Plus, OP thinks it's a bit full of herself for her sister to think everyone would be focused on her instead of the bride.

On top of all this, the family really wants the sister to see their grandparents at the wedding. They're getting old, can't travel, and haven't seen her in over five years.

So now, OP is stuck between just going along with her sister or telling her what she really thinks, worried that it might mess up their relationship.

OP asks:

OP, a concerned sibling, is debating herself if she would be out of line to express her view about her sister's refusal to attend a family member's wedding.

OP gets that it's her sister's choice, but she thinks the reasoning is kind of selfish.

OP posted an edit

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

She doesn’t have to justify her decision to anyone.

"You can only control what’s in your control "

Weddings are not a great place for spending quality time with loved ones.

OP needs to work on her supportive skills

"Not everyone feels connected to their extended family."

The sister should fight her own battles

Another update:

It's clear that we all have the right to call the shots in our own lives. But we've also got to remember the bigger picture.

OP's sister deciding not to go to the wedding might make sense to her, but she's forgetting about what it means for the rest of the family. It's tough dealing with criticism, sure, but it's even tougher missing out on quality family time and regretting it down the line.

Life's too short to pass up on making memories with the ones we love. It's also clear that OP is worried about her sister pushing away the few people she still has close ties with.

It's a real pickle, and it just goes to show how important it is to think about others and try to see things from their perspective, even when it means stepping out of our own comfort zones.

What do you think?

Damjan