Recovering Drug Addict Upset By Ex-Husband's Actions Of Keeping Her Drug-Usage Photos During Pregnancy And Showing Them To Their Son

"You cannot separate your past from this situation, it exists because of your mistakes."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• July 21, 2023

"Am I the a**hole for being mad at my ex-husband for showing photos of me smoking and being on meth to my kid?" It genuinely is one of the wildest questions asked in the subreddit.

The Redditors were appropriately shocked by the OP's query. The OP is a mom to two kids.

Her son Jeremy is nine years old, while her youngest, Mark, is two years old. OP's mom died during her pregnancy with Mark.

She relapsed during this period and fell back into her old drug habits. The law eventually caught up to OP.

Her husband took photos of her to shame her to make her kick the habit. OP mentioned that her now ex-husband never apologized for taking those pictures.

Her addiction was brought to light when her ex-husband showed those photos to their older son. He didn't tell Jeremy that OP started using after her mom died.

He just showed the photos to Jeremy, which OP believes he did out of resentment. Jeremy started to call his younger brother the r-slur and labeled him abnormal.

Her older son is also behaving oddly around OP. She blames her ex-husband for what is currently going on.

She thinks she is the better parent because she only made one mistake. Her ex-husband, on the other hand, lied about getting rid of the photos and showed those photos to their son.

OP said her ex-husband should understand how arduos the 12-step program is

Showing the photos to their son to give him a lesson about the dangers of choosing the wrong woman was low

Who is the better parent?

The entire post was a "woe is me" and an "ode to my suffering" for OP

It was definitely inappropriate for OP's ex-husband to show those photos to their young son

Before OP deleted her account, it was named u/SmallMistake

She also deleted all of her comments because they made her look more like the a**hole instead of earning her sympathy

OP is pushing all of the blame to her ex-husband. She is also comparing their mistakes and thinks what he did is a bigger transgression.

OP's ex-husband has full custody of their children. She only sees them when he allows it.

Her ex-husband's poor parenting choices doesn't erase what OP did during her pregnancy like she thinks they do

No one else is to blame for how her life turned out. Addiction is a disease, but the way OP is minimizing her addiction's impact to her loved ones is disgusting.

Jeremy was 7 years old when OP relapsed. He probably saw how the drugs changed OP during that time.

OP's ex-husband has to educate their older son about not using slurs. He detonated a bomb and isn't cleaning the mess.

A reminder of what she did is helpful since OP is determined to dismiss it so easily

It's infuriating how she said Mark is fine and glossed over the issues he faced because of what she did while he was in the womb

OP is avoiding accountability for what she did. Her entire post was about making herself look like the victim of her evil ex-husband.

Her ex-husband shouldn't have shown those photos to their son, as he is too young to truly make sense of what happened. However, it doesn't make OP the better parent like she is implying.

Chelsi