Lady Backs Out Of Double Date Before It Even Starts As One Party Decided To Be Extremely Late, Wonders If She's Missing Out

"They want me to apologize but I steadfastly refused"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• June 5, 2024

Whether you like it or not, punctuality counts and it really does matter a lot. It lets people know if they can rely on and trust you.

It reveals to others your perception of them and your own self. An apparently insignificant issue that can have a significant and long-lasting detrimental impact on your career is being consistently late.

There are numerous unforeseen repercussions to this behavior. On the other hand, being consistently on time or even early and understanding the value of timeliness is a very easy way to stand out from the crowd.

Making a positive first impression enables you to make progress toward your objectives more quickly by establishing your credibility. The OP is someone who understood the value of time.

He knows that being on time implies several things, including discipline, order, respect, accountability, and a good outlook. For months, OP's buddy and his girlfriend have been trying to set her up with her cousin.

A couple of weeks ago, the OP agreed, and a double date was planned. They picked the restaurant, and the OP made a reservation.

Everyone was in on the planning, so everyone knew the schedule. The OP and his buddy arrived at her place an hour earlier, but they were still not ready.

They waited, and it got to the reservation hour. The OP was beyond angry and left, but guess who was angry at him for leaving? 

The OP writes

The plan was that OP and his buddy was going to pick up his girlfriend and her cousin

OP's buddy and his GF texted and called to tell him what a jerk he was for leaving their planned double date

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

1. I left a double date before it started because they were taking so long and we missed our reservation 2. I could have waited and we could have gone somewhere else.

We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to read through below

Does the OP understand why she's still available after all this time?

This Redditor writes what the OP should counter with

An hour late is totally unacceptable in pretty much any situation

They could have gone somewhere else because they were still free to do so

This Redditor won't be friends with such people

Telling the friends that they were lucky he waited so long

According to this Redditor, she doesn't respect you if she doesn't respect your time

From a Redditor who is bad at time keeping

Being on time is essentially the essence of being courteous, and that's why it's so crucial to arrive on time. Being punctual matters a lot since it reveals to others your perception of both yourself and them.

Even though it might not seem like much, being late can eventually negatively impact your job or in this case, your date. Redditors understood why the OP took that action, and he was declared not the AH.

Maryjane