He and his GF have been together for several months now. They are getting along nicely, except for one thing:
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She lets her dog sleep in bed with her. He wants to cuddle with his GF, not her dog.
The dog is still not fully potty-trained, and has regular mishaps.
She agreed not to let the dog sleep with them, but allows it on the bed when OP is not around.
Last night, the dog was particularly upset
They are trying to find a solution
Is OP the A-hole here?
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:
That dog doesn’t sound trained to do much of anything
OP needs to make a decision:
What OP says makes a lot of sense:
Dogs love consistency.
Consistency doesn’t seem to be achievable here
"It is possible to train a dog to only sleep in the bed on command."
But that's not easy to achieve
Is OP ready to play #2 to a dog?
OP should talk with his GF
This is so true:
Beds are for people to get good nights sleep so they can function.
It sounds like she doesn't really know what she is doing here.
Dogs are social animals. That’s the reason we love them so much.
And they get incredibly attached to their owners. That’s why we love them even more.
But they must know boundaries. The dog in question is just a puppy and let’s try to see it from his side.
He has an owner who lets him sleep in her bed, but is now chased away by a newcomer. And when the newcomer is not there, he is allowed on the bed again.
Of course the dog will hate the newcomer and have accidents due to anxiety.