Husband Finally Puts His Foot Down When His Serial-Pet-Abandoner Wife Tells Him She Wants To Rehome A Dog She Lost Interest In

"But pets are family and I'd NEVER toss them aside. Our cats are my small, hairy, stupid children. We're together for life."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• September 25, 2022

Deciding to have a dog or pets in general, requires a lot of consideration. From resources to your ability to take care of them, all of those play a big part in how well your dynamic with your new pet will be. 

You always have to look at your situation will be when you’re facing more than their cuteness. That means dealing with their unruliness, doing things that would possibly annoy you, and the expenses.

This will make you better equipped with incorporating them as part of your family. And soon enough, you wouldn’t be able to imagine a life without them.

In a r/AITA post, OP's wife wanted a dog. Simple enough if you think about it but according to her family and long-time friends, it always ends up the same way.

According to OP, since his wife has terrible ADHD, it's easy for her to want a dog but then the charm of a new pet wears off after a while. Before relenting, OP made his wife understand that if they ever do get a dog, he would be easily attached to it and she couldn’t just take them away whenever she wanted to.

All was going well and OP loved their little puppy but the newness was wearing off for his wife and that’s where the problem started to grow. OP’s wife suddenly got a $2000 puppy that caught her attention, while her interest in their old puppy died down to disdain.

She then wanted to get rid of their first dog, but OP stood his ground and told her they were a package deal now and sees their dog as part of their family. His wife thinks he’s TA for not siding with her.

Is OP the a**hole in this situation? Here's how it started

OP's wife has a bad history with rehoming dogs when she doesn't find them adorable anymore

Despite her assurance, she still ended up not loving the dog as much as OP

Spur of the moment she bought an expensive dog and is interested with it more than the first dog

She wants to only keep the second dog but OP said that he loves the first dog like family already and refused

OP realized that the people are right, he's NTA

He gave an insight about how their situation is at home with the dogs

Then gave an update about the newer dog and possible divorce

He regretted not knowing her bad traits before he married her

They deserve the love and attention, especially when you chose to have them in the first place

The disregard of OP's wife about their conversation raises red flags for future situations

OP had mentioned ADHD but it might not be the reason for all the dog turn overs

This Redditor pointed out that her ADHD isn't an excuse for the wife's behavior

They may be hyper-focused on getting pets but it doesn't mean the it would result in getting rid of them when the 'newness' wears off

OP was advised to keep an eye out for any possible mistreatment from his wife

Someone shared a story about their DIL and her rehoming a lot of pets, the post and comments shed light that it's not because of a medical situation

Pets are more than passing projects that you need to see through, they are family

A lot of the comments agree that it's selfish of the wife to keep going through the cycle of getting new pets and then ending up rehoming them

Someone suggested sarcastically that maybe the pets are not the ones that need rehoming

OP should consider how things might play out and how it would affect his relationship

Pets can offer you a lot of things. Comfort, company, and sometimes entertainment, but before you get them, you should ask yourself what you can provide for them as well.

They aren't subjects that you can simply ignore when you feel like it. They're living creatures that can turn into your best buddy or family if you treat them right.

Chelsi