19-Year-Old Penny-Pinches To Save For Her Dog's Cancer Treatment, But Her GF Doesn't Understand & Still Expects Her To Finance Their Dates

Is this enough reason to end a relationship? Redditors seem to think it is a deal-breaker.

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• December 24, 2022

The adults in my life have given me a lot of great advice throughout the years, but one of the best ones is to always make sure I have money saved specifically for emergencies. This can be used for sudden job loss and medical emergencies.

I didn't think much of it at that time since I was in grade school when I first heard it, but I take it seriously now. We can never predict what life will throw at us, but preparedness can never hurt.

Now that I am living independently, my emergency is more tailored and kept somewhere else other than a discarded bottle of pickles. That money is divided into several categories, including car troubles, personal medical emergencies, and pet emergencies.

The money I've saved up for my dog has been incredibly useful on several occasions. Those vet bills are not cheap, as any pet owner would tell you.

This 19-year-old can attest to that when she found out her dog has cancer. OP knew that the treatment would cost an arm and a leg, so she started saving for it.

She saved every penny she could and deprived herself of a lot of things. The problem is her GF wasn't as concerned about the costs.

They go on spontaneous dates and OP ends up paying for the both of them

She didn't mind it at first because her GF just orders a soda but she noticed how her GF kept forgetting her wallet when they go out

OP thought she would be more considerate knowing that OP was saving for her dog's treatment but she wasn't

OP snapped and told her GF she can't afford to keep buying her drinks when she's also saving for her dog's cancer treatment. Did OP overreact and handle her frustration poorly?

Redditors didn't mince any words and advised OP to end the relationship and find a new GF

The majority of the comments suspected that OP's GF is mooching off of her

They agree that there is an imbalance in the relationship that benefits the GF more than it does OP

At the very least, OP needs to rethink why she is with someone who comes off as immature, based on the story

OP said she already tried to call it quits with her GF but she can't seem to stay away from her during the break

Her GF should have understood why OP was pinching pennies to prioritize her dog's health, since she didn't then it is wise to reevaluate where their relationship is going

Why does she need OP to keep paying for her drinks anyway? Forgetting her wallet every single time they go out is a lousy excuse.

OP clarified that she didn't yell at her GF about the money issues and calmly communicated why she couldn't afford to buy her a drink

Her GF is still at fault for expecting OP to finance their dates and it is not a quality anyone wants in a long-term partner

OP and her GF are still both young. They are still learning how to communicate with each other in the context of a romantic relationship.

However, based on what we read in OP's post, it seems they are incompatible. OP has a lot of thinking to do, but at least her dog is doing okay, thanks to her frugality.

Chelsi