Redditor Ditches Overbearing Suitor Over Pressure To Sell Their Home And Move In With Him, Gets Slammed By Co-Worker For 'Crushing' Him

A riveting journey of resilience amid abandonment and a controlling new lover.

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• May 21, 2023

In the quiet confines of life, sometimes we come face-to-face with situations that challenge our very mettle, situations that demand every ounce of strength and resilience we possess. This is a tale of such a time for our narrator (Original Poster).

A few years ago, OP found themselves thrown into the deep end of uncertainty when their partner, the father of their one-year-old child, suddenly chose to abandon his family. With no warning, he drained their bank account and vanished, leaving OP behind to suffer.

OP was left to navigate the world with no money, a car for a home, and a future that seemed bleak and unforgiving. But, as they say, the night is darkest before the dawn.

With sheer determination and an unyielding will, OP clawed their way out of the abyss. They found a job, saved up, and made a downpayment for a townhome—small but warm.

This was a big win for OP after all they had been through. It wasn't long before life presented a new test, a man who seemed to echo the controlling tendencies of her past.

Apparently, this new man began pressuring OP to sell their home and move in with him. Not to mention that he also wanted OP to give up their job to stay home.

His constant pressure became unbearable and gave off a rather controlling behavior. This led OP to break things off with him.

OP's coworker who introduced the man to them has been unforgiving ever since, accusing OP of crushing him. Now OP finds herself questioning their actions after cutting ties with this man.

They couldn't shake off the feeling that they had narrowly escaped a disastrous situation, yet here they are, seeking validation, asking if they are the 'buttface' in this scenario.

Check out the full details of the story below.

The story in detail

After going through a difficult time with their ex, OP was able to pick themselves up, save up and make a down payment for a home. Now they're back in the dating pool with a pushy guy who is now pressuring them to sell their home and move in with him

OP eventually broke things off with him after they couldn't stand his supposedly controlling behavior. However, the friend that introduced OP to the guy is not happy at them for 'crushing' him

Here's how the Reddit community reacted to the story:

"Your coworker friend is TBF. They tried to set you up with a psycho"

"Once burnt, twice shy - that is the one useful lesson your ex taught you: never give up your financial independence again!"

"If your coworker is so upset about their friend’s upset let them date the guy."

"He wants you jobless and in the house he owns so you're entirely dependent on him. This is how abusive relationships start."

"NTB Your coworker and the guy sure are, though. Good grief."

"You did great in not letting him pressure or manipulate you with his bullsh*t."

"You dodged what would have been a seriously controlling abuser!"

"NTB, you have accurately identified a series of red flags from this guy."

The Reddit community is proud of OP for their achievement and for standing their ground amid the pressure. In addition, commenters have applauded them for spotting the red flags in this new suitor while also slamming their co-worker for defending him.

Indeed, life often presents us with challenging situations that demand our strength and resilience. OP, faced with abandonment and hardship, rose to the occasion, showing an unyielding spirit.

However, even the strongest amongst us sometimes seek validation, a reassurance that the decisions made were right, especially when past and present blur into an uneasy echo.

It is in these moments that we must remember the power of our own judgment and the strength in our choices.

Jesse