Redditor Plans To Move Out Without Informing His Roommate Because He Has Exhausted Him Financially And Emotionally

"I'm not planning to say anything and just move out"

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• June 17, 2023

Living as roommates can potentially weaken and even destroy friendships in several ways. Personal habits, financial disagreements, dissimilarity in cleanliness, lifestyle habits, or failure to respect boundaries can often lead to bitterness.

These differences, when not addressed properly, may cause tension that can permanently damage the friendship. Something similar also happened to a Reddit user.

The OP said he and his friend Mike were friends for four years before deciding to become roommates. Initially, the living arrangement appeared trouble-free.

But soon, Mike began causing issues, regularly failing to pay rent on time, sometimes being up to three weeks late. This left the OP footing the bill until Mike decided to pay it.

Moreover, Mike consumed most of the groceries or let them spoil, which led to constant arguments about this issue. In an attempt to sidestep these issues, the OP bought food specifically for his work lunches and stored them in his bedroom when Mike wasn't home.

Discovering evidence of Mike's intrusion and missing food, the OP put the lock on his room and confronted Mike. Mike denied everything despite the OP showing him photographic evidence of his stolen food.

After this incident, the OP secured everything he had bought, including shared items, in his own room. Additionally, it's worth noting that he owns all the furnishings in the house, even Mike's bed.

The only bill Mike handles is the Wi-Fi, primarily used by the OP's robotic vacuum cleaner for communal cleaning. However, Mike changed the Wi-Fi password.

The OP pays for the appliances and intends to take them when leaving. But Mike believes they have a two-year lease, the OP knows it's only a year, so he plans to move out without informing Mike.

The OP asks:

The OP said that, at first, the living arrangement seemed to go smoothly, but soon Mike began to make some issues:

The OP tried to talk to him to solve their issues:

But since Mike wasn't interested, the OP took another approach:

To the OP's surprise, that didn't work also:

So he wants to hear some unbiased advice regarding his plan:

The OP should be careful until he moves out

If his roommate isn't paying for appliances, he shouldn't be using them

Perhaps this situation will serve as a reality check for his roommate

"If he’s too stupid to look at his lease, that’s not your fault."

A Redditor was curious and asked the OP:

The OP explained:

The OP's plan to move out seems justified and potentially the best course of action. The escalating series of issues, from financial irresponsibility to a lack of respect for personal space, indicate that the living situation is no longer tenable.

Perhaps the OP's exit might serve as a wake-up call for Mike to amend his ways. Also, it's not the OP's fault that Mike doesn't want to read their lead agreement.

Ultimately, preserving one's peace and well-being should be a priority, and the OP's decision seems aligned with that goal.

Filip