Girlfriend Visits Boyfriend's House Then Books Airbnb Because The House Was Dirty

Is it rude to leave your boyfriend's family home without telling them due to unpleasant living conditions?

Lakeisha

• Published in Interesting
• January 15, 2023

Madisonbecau, a 25-year-old woman, shared a post on the "AITA" subreddit about a recent experience she had with her boyfriend's family. Madison and her boyfriend, who is also 25, are in a long-distance relationship, and boyfriend still lives with his family.

Madisonbecau had planned to meet his family and stay at their home for the first time. However, when they arrived, the house was dirty and cold.

The heating was off and the temperature inside was only 13.8°C. Additionally, the family's dogs were kept in a small room with their feces and urine, which made Madisonbecau uncomfortable.

Madisonbecau is very particular about cleanliness and vacuums and cleans her own house every day. As a result, she was unable to stay in her boyfriend's family's home.

Instead, she booked an Airbnb and took an Uber to get there while her boyfriend's family was upstairs and didn't know she had left with her boyfriend. She and her boyfriend plan to message his family to explain her actions, but they are unsure of what to say because they know the state of the house would bother them a lot.

Madisonbecau feels guilty for leaving and especially for the fact that her boyfriend's mother had apparently spent the day cleaning the house and buying new sheets and a blanket for her. She also added that the meeting with her boyfriend's family was very awkward, with no one talking to her or really looking at her.

However, she's unsure if she was wrong for leaving and is seeking advice on whether she is the "ahole" in this situation. Here's what the AITA community had to say.

OP starts:

She booked an Airbnb and left. Here's what Reddit thinks.

1. There is no justification for neglecting dogs.

2. The place is not conducive for dogs and children.

3. She should involve the authorities.

4. The only thing she did wrong was not telling them before leaving.

5. It's a good thing she didn't put her health at risk.

6. The fact that her boyfriend lives in a dirty environment is enough reason to end the relationship.

7. Her boyfriend is old enough to keep his family's house clean.

8. She should reconsider the relationship if her boyfriend won't meet her cleaning standards.

9. She should find polite ways to inform them that she won't be staying.

10. She should make up an excuse that wouldn't offend them.

11. Her boyfriend's family is aware of their dirtiness.

12. She tried by not breaking up with him on the spot.

13. It sounds like her boyfriend's family might suffer from a mental illness.

14. No one should be forced to live in filth.

15. Her boyfriend should have arranged for them to stay elsewhere since he knows her standards.

16. She could use the excuse of a work emergency.

17. She could use the dogs as an excuse for leaving.

18. Her boyfriend's family shouldn't own pets if they can't afford to care for them properly.

19. She should meet them in neutral places henceforth.

20. She should tell them that she needed some privacy.

What Do You Think?

When staying in someone else's home, it's essential to remember that everyone has different standards of cleanliness and comfort.

While it's understandable that you would want to prioritize your own comfort and well-being in an uncomfortable living situation, it's important also to consider the perspective of your host family. To avoid any misunderstandings, open and honest communication is crucial.

Express your concerns and needs respectfully, and work together to find a solution that makes your stay comfortable. In the end, it's important to prioritize your well-being and comfort while also being mindful of how your actions may affect others.

Lakeisha