Man Is In A Dilemma As He's More Comfortable Killing Himself Than Divorcing His Dormant Wife

"I’m terrified that she’ll forever be haunted by the breakdown"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• September 24, 2023

Look, everyone has seen the statistics. The likelihood of being married for the long haul is essentially determined by a coin toss, however, it can sometimes be difficult to tell whether your marriage has turned from loving to angry, or worse, indifferent.

Communication problems exist in marriages, which one partner admits to while the other does not. This could occur as a result of a person's changing life objectives or their perception that their worries are never taken seriously.

In other situations, both spouses become stuck in harmful behaviors and separate because they are simply too worn out. However, being in an unhappy marriage need not spell the end of your relationship.

There may be hope if both parties are willing to come up, speak things out, and work on their relationship. The OP of today's story tried counseling when he first asked his wife for a divorce, but it didn't work as his wife went back to her previous behavior.

You see, the OP has been married for 17 years, and his wife has nothing to contribute to their relationship. The OP is the sole breadwinner, takes care of their finances, gets groceries, and cleans the house, among other things.

OP's wife doesn’t have any friends, either, because she doesn’t make the effort to make them. The OP has given her so much support and so many chances, but she doesn't want to change, so he wants a divorce.

The OP writes

OP's wife doesn’t have any friends because she doesn’t make the effort to make them

When the OP expresses his frustration, she cries and says that he makes her feel like she can’t do anything right

The OP loves his wife, but he has given her so much support and so many chances

Here, the OP summarizes the whole story in a more shocking way

My wife is completely dependent on me (for finances, “making life work,” friendship, etc.) and I care about her deeply, but for reasons explained below I can’t go on in this one-sided arrangement anymore. However, because I am everything to her, I know that divorcing her will be absolutely devastating, and I’m almost more comfortable killing myself than divorcing her. (I know how ludicrous that is, and to be clear, I’m not suicidal.)

And the comments from other redditors roll in...

The OP just has to do it as there's no other way

She turns off the tap.as her default wish is to live off of the OP

People do not change unless they want to

Nothing will work without both trying to make it work

The OP cannot hold her hand through this

This redditor has a similar story to share

The OP added this additional informations later on

When does a difficult period become a wholly unloved or unhappy marriage? It can be frightening to confront the idea that your marriage is done or even to see the indications in the first place, but if you both want it, you can reconcile.

Clearly, the OP has had enough, and Redditors agreed that he shouldn't be living this way. Drop your own advice for the OP in the comments section below.

Maryjane