Woman Asks Husband To Decline Offer To Work At Dream Job Or Face Divorce

Decisions, decisions!

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• October 23, 2022

Marriage is one of the most complicated relationships there is. As beautiful as it is, couples go through many issues they could never have anticipated.

Sometimes, even anticipating those issues doesn’t change their adverse outcomes. Many couples have to navigate delicate things like finances, health, other relationships, and, not to mention, the many twists and turns life throws at people. 

Unfortunately, only a few couples can navigate these issues without driving a wedge between themselves. That’s why divorce rates worldwide continue to spike each day. 

In the U.S, for example, research shows that almost 55% of first marriages end in divorce. That’s pretty high when you think that this means that only slightly above half of the marriages in the country will go the distance. 

We found a story on the AITA subreddit that shows clear signs of a crack in a once-happy union.

A Redditor shared that her husband had gotten a job for a company in direct competition with the company she works at.

While the job is her husband’s dream job, it could end her career and jeopardize the family’s finances.

OP explained that she offered her husband two options: to decline the job offer OR accept it and move out of the house, as they would begin divorce proceedings.

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Your dream job or your marriage; choose wisely!

OP explained that her husband landed an interview of a lifetime. But the problem is, taking up this job would put her career at risk

She had no option than to ask him to decline the offer. But hubby wasn't going to just give in to such a request when this was literally a dream come true

Now OP is threatening a divorce if her husband takes the job

The post went viral, garnering 35.3k upvotes and almost 6k comments. We gathered the best reactions for you below:

"Some are saying you've decided your job is important than your husband. They're ignoring that he seems to have decided a job offer is more important than your entire career"

"He has decided that, as the husband, he has a right to order his wife to give up her career"

...this Redditor isn't finished yet

"I think the fact that he’s not considering the fact that his wife makes more than 3X what he will is stupid"

"He already went behind her back. Who's to say he won't go behind her back to steal information?"

"He is choosing a job offer over you and your livelihood, not just for now, but into the future"

"I wonder if Organization X will still want your husband once he becomes your ex?"

"I think you made the right choice, you clearly resent what he's done and I can't see that getting better if you lose everything you worked for"

"He knew the reasons why he shouldn’t pursue this job, yet he went for it anyway"

"This is bigger than just career and jobs, he has very little respect for you"

"He doesn't realize that marriage is a PARTNERSHIP. That he is putting his personal desires over the stability of having a wife that has his back is shameful"

"Your husband is willing to destroy your career and your future prospects for a job that he does not yet have, that he does not have to take, and that may or may not work out"

"He's TA, and he obviously thinks his career is more important than yours and you really shouldn't put up with that"

"He is basically asking you to give up your entire career for him"

"Even if he still felt differently than you, he didn’t continue to try to work it out with you, instead he continued the application process and lied to you about it. That’s not conducive to a healthy marriage"

The people in the comments section agree that OP isn’t in the wrong in this situation. According to them, OP’s husband is being selfish because OP’s career is specialized, and she wouldn’t be able to work in her field ever again if he took the job.

What are your thoughts on this? Do you think OP is the A-hole? Let us know in the comments below!

Jesse