Wife Furiously Lashes Out At Husband For Dipping Into Their Savings To Repay Old Debt To His Ex

“Our family comes first!”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• June 8, 2024

Reuniting with a high school sweetheart can be like opening a time capsule. Memories flood back, the past creeps in, and chemistry might reignite in unexpected ways. The same thing happened when our narrator (Original Poster) ran into her high school ex.

Sparks flew, and before anyone knew it, they eloped and even welcomed a little one who was now toddling off to daycare. Sounds like a fairy tale, right? Well, reality has a funny way of sneaking in.

OP’s husband had a bit of a rocky financial past. When they reconnected, he was living with another girlfriend who generously covered his rent and car repairs during tough times.

He and OP were currently crammed in a tiny apartment and stashing away all they could to save for a house. Since OP’s parents were helping pay off her student loans, the burden rested squarely on them—and the pressure was high.

But here’s the twist: during a budget discussion, hubby dropped a bombshell. He’d been secretly squirreling away cash to repay his ex for those car repairs. OP was furious.

You see, she believed he was only trying to ease his guilt for taking off with her and abandoning his ex. In her opinion, their child and current life should come first—not an ex from two years ago.

This led to a heated argument, and her husband stormed off after deciding he needed some space. OP’s mom was on her side, but friends thought repaying the ex was the right thing to do.

Was OP the a**hole for trying to put their family’s future first?

The story in detail

OP met her now husband after completing her first degree but before that, her husband once lived with his girlfriend due to numerous money problems. She helped fix his car as well as pay rent when he couldn’t.

After they met, their love rekindled quickly and they now have a child together. OP suggested they bought a house since their current apartment was quite small.

OP discussed how they could save up money for their new house but her husband talked about repaying his ex girlfriend the money she helped him with during their stay together. OP told her husband that his priority should be on getting the house and their daughter and not his ex.

OP’s mentioned to her mom and friends that her husband left home and had not return due to her statement.

We gathered some comments for your reading pleasure:

“So he cheated on her while he was mooching off her? What a prince.”

“He owes her money. He should pay it, and frankly, it says a lot about his character.”

“YTA he’s prior debts are his number 1 responsibility until they’re paid off.”

“He is indebted to his ex. Debts need to be paid.”

“If you owe someone money, you pay them back before you focus on your own goals.”

Redditors were clear in their verdict: "YTA." They highlighted how the husband’s commitment to repaying his debt reflects his integrity; OP’s reluctance, on the other hand, raised concerns about her own. 

Moreover, entering the housing market with existing debt was a wrong move m—especially in this current economy. Trust and financial responsibility were key in this situation.

What do you think about this story? Let us know in the comments.

Jesse