Grieving Mom Drags Late Son's GF Online For Refusing To Give Her One Of Their Cats

"The grief of a mother is more than the grief of a girlfriend”

Maryjane

• Published in Animal Stories
• June 30, 2024

When someone dies, their belongings are often left behind, and sometimes people debate who should keep these items. This can be a challenging and emotional moment, as some people may want to preserve some stuff, such as photos or precious objects.

Disagreements can arise when people cannot agree on who should keep these items. This brings us to today's story, as OP's world gets shattered when her partner is killed in a car accident.

The sadness was terrible, but she found comfort in their two cats, Gizmo and Shortcake. Her boyfriend's mother, who had been a source of comfort during her bereavement, suddenly became a cause for worry.

A simple request to see Gizmo turned into a heated custody argument. OP's resistance to giving up Gizmo was met with rage and insults, threatening to break the bond they had.

The event has OP wondering about everything, from her connection with her lover's family to what her boyfriend would have expected her to do. As tensions escalate, OP must negotiate the challenging situation while remembering her late partner and their loving cats.

Will she be able to solve this problem, or will it forever alter the dynamics of their relationships? Keep scrolling to read the entire story in the OP's own words below.

The OP kicks off her story

She came over for around an hour and they chatted about stuff

She has “more of a right to him than I do”

OP thinks it’s damaged their relationship to a point of no return

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I decided to not give my dead boyfriend’s cat back to his grieving mother. This could make me an AH as her and the cat have known each other for longer and may be more comfortable with each other.

I believe I might be a selfish AH because I understand her logic on knowing the cat for longer and that her role as his mom puts her grieving feelings above mine as the girlfriend. Maybe I should’ve gave back the cat in attempt to salvage our relationship but I decided against it.

And the comments roll in...

The OP should keep them together

Did he prefer a one cat house?

The OP should microchip the cat immediately

The OP left this edit later on

My boyfriend adopted Gizmo while he still lived with his mother in 2019. Him and I got together in March of 2020. In February of 2023 Gizmo and himself moved into my apartment with me and we adopted Shortcake together from a shelter shortly after.

Giving the cat back is the right thing

It's best for things not to change

Choosing what's best for the cat

OP's boyfriend would have been disappointed

OP's sadness over her boyfriend's death has been compounded by a heartbreaking battle for custody of their pet cat. Although her ex's mother's sadness may be more profound, there is no excuse to ignore OP's sentiments or Gizmo's well-being.

Despite the backlash from her late boyfriend's family, OP is doing what she believes is best for Gizmo, and her steadfast loyalty to her cat could be the only bright spot in this difficult circumstance. 

Maryjane