Mother Cuts Off In-Laws For Constantly Feeding Dairy Products To Her Allergic Daughter To Force Kid’s System To Adapt

“I can't stand the fact that they have constantly disrespected me regarding the way I'm raising my children.”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• May 9, 2024

Parenting is a deeply personal journey, shaped by individual values, experiences, and the unique needs of each child. Now, if only our narrator’s (Original Poster’s) in-laws could understand this, her life would’ve been so much easier.

You see, there was a rocky history between OP and her father-in-law; their clash of opinions on raising children could rival any hero-villain feud. 

OP was a supermom living with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome. She juggled three kids with the pain and fatigue that came with her condition, but nothing seemed to be enough for her father-in-law.

For one thing, he firmly believed in a world where mealtimes were fixed and untouchable—even if it meant tiny tummies growling for hours until then. But OP? She championed the cause of listening to a child's needs—one of which was her five-year-old daughter’s dairy allergies.

The allergy was serious enough to warrant having an EpiPen on standby. She was currently in the care of her grandparents and only a few days had passed; then suddenly OP’s phone buzzed with a picture-perfect disaster in the making—a snapshot of her daughter, happily munching on a croissant, diving into Nutella, and then a side of quiche! 

To make matters worse, her EpiPen had gone MIA somewhere on the in-laws’ farms. A quick call revealed a coughing kiddo and suspicions of a reflux fit. 

With the speed of a cheetah, OP convinced her husband to swoop in and rescue their little one from the dairy danger zone. This was beyond a breach of trust and OP made it clear her daughter was never staying with them again. 

But this was still her husband’s family, so did doing this make her a bad wife?

Let’s dig into the details

A bit of background

OP complained that her in-laws constantly go against their rules and feed their daughter diary products despite her allergy

OP concluded that her daughter won’t be staying with her in-laws any longer

“NTA. You are your child’s first line of defense. She is too little to advocate for herself.”

“They literally endangered her life by losing her epipen and then giving her something she’s allergic to!”

“The grandparents keep feeding the kids allergens until they get arrested or the kid isn't alive.”

“That's just militant ignorance. Don't trust him around your kid unsupervised until he demonstrates he can do better.”

“People don’t outgrown allergies because you give them what they’re allergic to. They either outgrow them or they don’t.”

“Where is your husband in all of this? He is allowing his family to cause unnecessary medical suffering to your child.”

“You are your child’s advocate. Your duty is to protect your children from harm.”

“Your in-laws have proved not to be fit to take care of your kid; loosing the epipen is a serious issue.”

No one enjoys unsolicited advice, especially when it comes to raising their children. But in OP’s case it was a health and safety concern, so Redditors were alarmed—and rightfully so.

Redditors solidly backed OP’s decision to do whatever was needed for the wellbeing of her child. After some hard reflecting and watching her adorable princess in dairy-induced pain for days on end, OP decided going no contact was the best option. 

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Jesse