Mother Removes Teen Daughter's Bedroom Door Following Repeated Incidents Of Door Slamming, Asks If She Was Right

They put up an industrial-grade curtain and are waiting for an apology before the door gets reinstalled.

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• December 14, 2023

A mom of three wondered if the punishment she doled out to her teenage daughter fit the crime. OP removed Maggie's bedroom door after she repeatedly slammed it loud enough to disturb everyone's sleep.

Maggie has a room by herself, while her younger brothers share one. Other than her door-slamming habit, Maggie is a great kid.

She is responsible at home, isn't a slacker at school, and doesn't tease her younger brothers too much. OP's only complaint is Maggie's heavy handling of her bedroom door.

It was the only door in the house she took her attitude out on. The loud noise was enough to wake their entire household up at night whenever Maggie got up to use the bathroom.

Her brothers share a wall with Maggie, while OP's primary bedroom is directly above theirs. Everyone wakes up whenever Maggie leaves or enters her room.

They talked to Maggie about the door slamming. They asked her to be more mindful because her habit affected all of them.

They threatened to punish her when the gentle approach didn't work. It was like Maggie didn't hear a thing because she still slammed the door like it offended her.

OP was done with fruitless conversations when Maggie slammed her door and woke them all up at an ungodly hour. OP's patience was tested when she knocked on Maggie's door and was received with a pointed, "WHAT!?"

OP told Maggie calmly that if she slammed her door one more time, she would come home to find it gone.

Maggie yelled at OP to leave her alone and slammed her door even harder.

OP and her husband kept their promise. They took Maggie's door off its hinges and replaced it with a privacy curtain while their daughter was in school.

Maggie freaked out and accused them of taking away her right to privacy when she got home. OP's mom told her that they overreacted.

They informed Maggie that she could get her door back when she agreed to respect the other people at home by closing her door gently.

The curtain is just a temporary punishment. They still knock on the wall before entering Maggie's room.

Is Maggie's behavior a result of her relationship with her brothers?

OP clarified that they didn't parentify Maggie, nor have they given unfair responsibilities to their children to cause resentment.

Go back to your teenage years... Why did we all do so many questionable things that didn't make sense?

OP said that she would also like to know why Maggie slams the door. Once the door is back on, she will demonstrate to her daughter just how disruptive her door-slamming tendencies are.

Redditors were determined to get to the bottom of Maggie's door slamming.

OP did say that Maggie has ADHD. OP believes her daughter's door-specific attitude is her way of testing how much she can get away with at home. She is pushing boundaries and entering her rebellious teenage phase.

Accepting the consequences of her actions is an important lesson for Maggie to learn at her age.

OP is well prepared for Maggie's attitude. Once her daughter apologizes for what she has done, OP will put her door back on.

OP estimated that her daughter would sulk for two to three days before she came to her senses and apologized.

It was a good thing that no one was injured with her vendetta against her door.

I agree with OP's assessment of her daughter's actions. Maggie is a teenager who is trying to push boundaries at home just to see if her parents allow her to act however she pleases.

OP posted updates that were unfortunately deleted. Redditors reassured OP that she wasn't an a**hole for taking her daughter's bedroom door since she gave her enough opportunities to correct her door-slamming habit.

Chelsi