Daughter Is Thinking About Cutting Contact With Her Parents Who Pressure Her Into Helping Them Pay For Their Expensive Mortgage

The parents are forcing her to pay £600 a month.

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• Published in Interesting
• January 31, 2023

Parents provided for their children from the moment they were born until they become adults. So do children have the same obligation toward their elderly mothers and fathers?

There is no wrong or right answer to this question. It depends on the person's belief.

In 2020, AARP's research revealed that 1/3 of middle-aged adults have given their parents money. Roughly half of the respondents gave their parents at least $1K per month and about 20% gave $5K or more.

Regardless of financial strains, these people are still willing to support their parents. But sometimes, it's the parents themselves who pressure their children into giving them money.

Today's post is all about the unreasonable financial pressure from parents. A woman posted about her problem with her parents on the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA) subreddit.

She mentioned that her family only lived in a rented house. And that when she turned 18, she got a full-time job and moved out.

She has a boyfriend now who got a mortgage for their home. This is under her name.

But when her parents found out about this, they kept forcing her to help them financially. They also wanted a home mortgage under her name.

She never relented. So her parents worked hard to get a mortgage.

Now, the parents want her to help them pay for half of the house they purchased. She still refused.

So the original poster (OP) is wondering. Was she wrong to decide not to help?

The OP explains her situation.

The OP purchased a new home with her boyfriend.

Her parents also want to buy a new home, but there is a catch—they want the mortgage under her name.

She refused to help her parents the first time since she can't afford to have another debt under her name.

But these parents won't stop. They want the OP to contribute to the mortgage.

Guilt made the OP ask for outsiders' opinions.

If she didn't leave home at 18, the parents would be financially abusing her.

The OP's parents are bad parents.

Some adults just suck at money and life.

What's not okay: Parents forcing children to pay for their bills.

What's okay: Parents letting their children contribute money of their own accord.

Maybe it's time for the OP to quit work and demand money from her parents. Eye for an eye.

Throwing a fit seems like a good idea! They are bad parents, after all!

Children aren't indebted to their parents.

Why are the parents asking for something that they didn't provide their child?

Even if she agrees, the OP still can't get a mortgage under her name.

The OP can always shut her parents down if they continue to pester her.

Redditors are encouraging the OP to refuse every time her parents ask for money.

The parents need to learn how to be responsible adults. They need to start by paying the mortgage themselves.

The OP has her own life now. The mother needs to understand that.

The parents are lazy people trying to manipulate their daughter.

They could be jealous of what the OP has achieved.

The OP could be risking herself financially if she agrees to help her parents.

It's never her responsibility to pay for something her parents decided to buy.

Redditors stand by the OP, and they agree that she did the right thing. She should not allow herself to be manipulated by her parents.

The OP must stand her ground. She can always contribute money if she wants to, but not in a manner that risks her financial stability.

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