Stubborn Dad Finds His Missing Money In The Trunk Of His Car After Two Years Of Accusing His Teenage Daughter's Camp Friend Of Stealing It

"What is WRONG with you?"

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• May 14, 2023

Our actions, both right and wrong, affect us and the people around us. This is a fact that rings true, especially for parents.

A father posted on Reddit about his years of mistakes that strained his relationship with his daughter. OP's daughter has been going to a summer camp since she was seven years old.

She continued attending even when her parents divorced when she was just twelve years old. She and her camp friends look forward to seeing each other at the camp each year.

OP and his ex-wife equally split the cost of their daughter going to camp, except in 2022 when OP's relationship with his daughter was shaky.

Their problems started in 2021 when OP went home and found his daughter hanging out with one of her camp friends. OP was uneasy to have an unexpected stranger in his home but tamped it down after seeing how excited his daughter was.

His daughter's friend stayed overnight from time to time after that. OP put a stop to all of that when a bank envelope of his went missing.

He looked for the envelope all over the house to no avail. What are the odds, OP thought, of his daughter's friend staying over and him suddenly losing money?

OP was fuming and asked his daughter about the envelope. She asked him to lower his voice because her friend would be visiting that day.

Before she can enter the house, OP confronted his daughter's friend

The teenager got upset and defended herself. She said her family was wealthy and she had no need for his money.

OP's daughter came to her friend's defense and said she had no opportunity to take the money even if she wanted to because she never left her friend alone

OP told his daughter's friend that she wasn't welcome to his house anymore and asked her to leave

Despite the custody agreement, his daughter stopped talking to him and refused to see OP. In 2022, OP's ex-wife asked him to pay his half for their daughter's summer camp, but he refused.

He said he didn't want his daughter around a thief. He and his daughter had another falling out because of what OP said; this time, her low contact with him looks permanent.

Fast forward this year, OP was about to sell his car. He cleaned it and he found his missing bank envelope in the trunk.

OP texted his daughter to let her know about the envelope and apologized. She asked him to apologize to her friend through a three-way call and OP agreed.

His daughter said OP can make up for his mistakes by paying for all of her summer camp expenses this year. OP declined and said he will only give half of the cost.

OP's daughter said this is the least he could do after accusing her friend and embarrassing her. OP doesn't think what he did was wrong because he truly believed that his daughter's friend was a thief.

OP's daughter has given him an out and his response is a resounding no? Is it really better to lose your relationship with your daughter because you can't admit to your mistakes?

It looks like OP still thinks he did nothing wrong

An apology is appreciated but actions that show your remorse and commitment to change mean more

It doesn't erase the fact that you made a mistake and refused to believe your daughter, OP

"Although your belief before was sincere, it was also WRONG." Someone shout this from the rooftop, ideally near OP's house.

OP verbally attacked a teenager outside of his home and felt it was just

OP was literally like, "Oops, my bad!" Then expected everyone to be fine with it.

Rarely do we see stories on Am I The A**hole so clearly demonstrating who is at fault

OP's daughter will never, ever forget that moment she realized her father will not believe her. It's not surprising that she is so mad at him.

He just wants his daughter to completely erase the past two years from her memory

To this question, OP has no answer

OP has no one to blame but himself. Somehow, I feel that he will grasp on any straw he can find to place the blame on someone or something else.

OP ultimately was voted the a**hole by a landslide. If he doesn't listen to the advice given to him, it could be too late for him to repair his relationship with his daughter.

Chelsi